wedding tommorow

[steve208]

I am going to a family wedding tommorow and i am really scared.!
I am afraid that i will drink too much and behave silly. That I will seem like a failure when i have to talk to distant relatives that i have not met before. Also that i will get interested in any women my age that might be there.

any advice please

tia

[zou]

don't drink

[WendyS]

Steve - for the first drink you are offered, get yourself something very long, fizzy and non-alcoholic, especially if the weather's hot so that you don't start off the occasion with alcohol. As for seeming a failure when you have to talk to relatives, what is it about your life that makes you feel insecure? In the longer term, if this is an issue, resolve to do something about it, but for tomorrow, just think of a few current topics that you can comfortably talk about to anybody - the weather, what they are doing about holidays, any interesting places they have been recently, etc. Once you start chatting, it's surprising how one subject painlessly leads to another.
And shy are you worry you will get interested in any women of your own age? Are you already attached and fear being unfaithful? If not, just relax and enjoy their company. It will probably only be for a few hours unless something interesting develops.

[steve208]

thanks wendy. i will have to have some drink with wine being on the table but will try to keep to one glass and champs to toast the couple. and the heat is great excuse to get non alcohol cocktail.

im not attached at all i just dont want to end up finding someone i like i dunno i just feel its selfish.

i am quite shy sometimes but going through depression atm and dont feel very outgoing. am getting couselling once a week which is helping though.