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I have ignored over the last year about 15 phonecalls and about 10 emails. Now I am getting photos of my "friend's" brother, grandchildren from England.
I don't want any communication with this friend who lives in England but in spite of the many hints she is still trying to contact me.
I think this will go on endlessly and now I know I will be forced to deal with it face to face with it as in actually telling her that I want the friendship over. I honestly don't think I should have to do this that the hints should be strong enough.
What do you think. I am writing this with nerves in my stomach as I know this friend will not take this lying down. Thanks
I don't want any communication with this friend who lives in England but in spite of the many hints she is still trying to contact me.
I think this will go on endlessly and now I know I will be forced to deal with it face to face with it as in actually telling her that I want the friendship over. I honestly don't think I should have to do this that the hints should be strong enough.
What do you think. I am writing this with nerves in my stomach as I know this friend will not take this lying down. Thanks
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It sounds to me like she never was a friend but she foisted herself on you and you were too nice to say no.....have been there except I am not nice. I would take the advice offered here, block her calls on mobile and landline and tell your email program to put her emails straight into you spam folder
The problem is if you just ignore the situation there could always be a nagging sense she will land on you doorstep unannounced, and this will be even more embarrassing. I had a quite similar situation and a few months ago came clean by email and the sense of relief when I got the answer was incredible. Went something like this:
Me: (name) its been nice (lie but no feelings hurt) you coming to visit every Thursday but you have probably guessed by the emails and phone calls not answered , and the fact I've not been home the last three weeks, that I want to end our friendship. I don't want to go into the whys and wherefores, just ask nicely that you don't contact me again but at the same time wish you well. Please don't call email or text as I will not reply.
Her: by email. Well I'm sorry you feel that way I've gone out of my to come visit you to keep you company. If that's the way you feel then goodbye! ( then a bit more passive aggressive tripe)
The relief! I was ready to hide the next thursday her 'visiting' day but no, not a peep and nothing since.
Me: (name) its been nice (lie but no feelings hurt) you coming to visit every Thursday but you have probably guessed by the emails and phone calls not answered , and the fact I've not been home the last three weeks, that I want to end our friendship. I don't want to go into the whys and wherefores, just ask nicely that you don't contact me again but at the same time wish you well. Please don't call email or text as I will not reply.
Her: by email. Well I'm sorry you feel that way I've gone out of my to come visit you to keep you company. If that's the way you feel then goodbye! ( then a bit more passive aggressive tripe)
The relief! I was ready to hide the next thursday her 'visiting' day but no, not a peep and nothing since.
I had a best friend for about thirty years. We phoned every day and met up every year. She trained to be a magistrate.thats when it started to go wrong. She felt she was better than me. Questioned everything I did. Compared my daughters degree with her daughters Andy made deriding comments. She criticised the newspapers I read, where I did my shopping, even the type of pencils I used!
I remember making a comment on Paul Potts, (remember him) you can tell how long ago this was. I said how good he was on that tv programme. She said you obviously know nothing about opera and music and to be honest everyone you know has not the slightest amount of intelligence!
That did it. I just said to her "this friendship is now over"
I never spoke to her again, I blocked her calls. She died about ten years ago. Of course I missed her as she had been like a sister to me for so long but I couldn't forgive her. I had to do it for my own sanity. I used come off the phone shaking.
I remember making a comment on Paul Potts, (remember him) you can tell how long ago this was. I said how good he was on that tv programme. She said you obviously know nothing about opera and music and to be honest everyone you know has not the slightest amount of intelligence!
That did it. I just said to her "this friendship is now over"
I never spoke to her again, I blocked her calls. She died about ten years ago. Of course I missed her as she had been like a sister to me for so long but I couldn't forgive her. I had to do it for my own sanity. I used come off the phone shaking.
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