How Can I Explain To My Brother. That When I Say,

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My brother who is 22 years old. And I'm 36. Has done nothing with his life. He lived with me off and on for 5 years. I offered to pay for his schooling,his learners and driving school. But no he rather lay around the house. Didn't help much either. He is depression and tryed commiting suicide 3 years ago over a girl. And I fear he's going down the same road again. And I can't watch it. I tried saying that mom wouldn't be happy with his life choices and he flipped on me. Saying it wasn't his fault she died. He's right it was her choice. But you would think he would want to be better. Make himself someone she would of been proud of. She gave her life so he can live his. So why is he wasting it.

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Canada. I live in Alberta

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Canada has a world class health service (arguably better than the UK) there will be help available for severe depression. You will just have to do a bit of Googling. It is a worldwide problem. But the UK Charity 'Mind' will give advice to anyone anywhere. Just dial their help line from Canada ( the call may not be free though) If they can't help directly they will direct you to someone that can.

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https://www.albertahealthservices.ca/info/service.aspx?id=6810
^ try these people .

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I got him help. He did a day program which lasted 4 months long. It made him worse. Taught him how to stand up for himself. The problem is. Is now he thinks the world owes him everything. It got so bad i I wouldn't 3v3n go in to the store with him. Cause he would cause arguments for nothing . I myself have gone through concelling after counselling. To spot my anger I hold deep inside. Still can't figure it out to be honest. And I know it's hard to control feelings at times. But he's out of control with is lack of seeing himself as the problem. He always turns it on to the other person. Blaming them and never himself. And because of that reason . He will never get true help. He is good at making people see him differently. Then what he is. So he never gets down to what the problems may be. So ya he needs help. But he doesn't think so. He thinks he's fine. So I say . Then go be fine. And stop trying to come back to me when one only when *** it's the fan. I know we r support to help others. But to what expense. My happiness. My family. My kids. No enough is enough. Again thanks to u all for your advice. But what good is help if u only tell a little so they only see what he want them to see. When I went I laid it all out on the table. Closed alot of hurting doors. I may still be angry and maybe one day I will figure out why. But for now I just need to let him go and never look back

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UPDATE. My brother is beyond help. Since the last time I responded he has got himself into trouble by stealing his roommates stuff. Police are involved. And he is in complete denial. And has stopped talking to me because I believe the facts that lead Straight to him. And I found out he lied to me so many times. And I found 20 or more 2l pop bottles of pee in his place when I went and did the right thing and cleaned it out cause he left it a mess. He is now living with his girlfriend/ fiance. I think it's a joke. Hes Only with her because he's chasing the dream he should of had with his ex girlfriend who aborted their child without really talking to him. So he's found a girl with a child that's 8. He's 22. Gf is 34. Like come on he can't even get his *** together. And he hated kids. He was so mean to mine. It's all a joke. But I'm washing my hands of it. And I'm done . No more hurt from that dead weight.