Spath,
Where do you get the idea that the title,"Mem Sahib". went out of fashion 15yrs ago.I have referred to my beloved as that for 42 years. Better IMO than,her indoors,the misses,the she devil,she who must be obeyed,the trout etc etc. I may be a little archaic in my ways but I do know how to refer to my wife with respect. :-)