It’S Been A Difficult Day .

[Jenarry]

no question,just need to get it off my chest .
I stopped being friends with my best friend 5years ago after she behaved very badly on the lead up to and on my wedding day . she couldn’t have been less interested in the fact i was getting married . it was all very disappointing .
i don’t have anything to do with her but hear the odd thing thorough mutual friends or on the dreaded Fb . that she’s had twins and getting married herself.
well today was her wedding day and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it . wondering how it’s gone . whether she’s had a perfect day .
I’ve forgotten about it at times when spending time with one friend and another and my hubby and son but at quiet times it’s been driving me mad. :( i don’t regret not being friends anymore, it just still leaves a bad taste in my mouth that she thought so little of me to carry on the way she did on what was a very important day of my life . :(

[Jenarry]

I think it just plays on mind how crap she was to me Tilly . she was supposed to be my best friend but I had a neighbour who i had hardly anything to do with me make more effort than she did . and she behaved so appallingly on the day .
I suppose knowing it’s her wedding day has brought it all back . :(

[albaqwerty]

I think the news of her getting married has stirred up mixed emotions in you Jen.

The nice part in you wants her to have a nice day, the sensible part in you knows the rest.

Leave it behind. Carry on with your life as you have been doing x

[TonyV]

Jen she will not be part of your life in the short term, so you need to just accept that. Dont get yourself stressed.
You may not need a a needy person in yours?

[anneasquith]

Alba, mr. A. Ok ?

[albaqwerty]

not doing too badly at all, thanks Anne x
Putting up with my SOH quite steadfastly lol
Easily fatigued tho, quite understandably.

Sorry for digression Jen

[chrissa1]

My daughter experienced the same thing with one of her closest friends who was a bridesmaid at my daughter’s wedding. For some reason she couldn’t have cared less about the wedding and suddenly, at the start of the festivities in the evening told someone else, not my daughter, that she had to go home because her dog was ill.

It was so strange and unfathomable,that they haven’t talked since. She has no idea that my daughter has just had twins and my daughter doesn’t want her to know.

She just accepts that the friendship is over but has no idea why.

As you say Jenarry, she wonders occasionally, but it’s her friend’s loss, not my daughter’s.

Get on with your happy life without her.

[Jenarry]

how rubbish for your daughter . it’s very upsetting . my friend told a mutual friend that I’d fallen out with her as I was married I didn’t need her anymore . And what a complete load of rubbish that was . I think the truth was she no longer had a need for me and obviously didn’t give a toss about me as she had zero interest in my wedding , hen do , etc.

[jakep]

I had a similar experience.
Sometimes we, unknowingly play a role in someone’s life. Those of us who have no agenda see this as a friendship.
When the situation changes, so does your role. She no longer felt so important to you.
If she thought about you at all during her wedding day, it was have been fleeting.
She is not, and never truly was, your friend.
Please stop torturing yourself with these thoughts and move on with your husband and true friends x