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GrayMustangGT | 08:34 Wed 04th Mar 2020 | Family & Relationships
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Spouse is currently away on job but comes home on weekends. Calls mornings/evenings. Things seem great. Already visited where spouse is staying before. However planning on another trip soon and now spouse is asking all these questions of which weekend they wont be needing to make the drive back. I honestly find it odd due to the fact itll be during the week ( not a weekend when a make the trip ). The spouse is aware of this, so why would it matter and why the repeated question of which weekend of not having to make the drive back home? It makes me think theres more to this... or am I imagining things? Would like an outside opinion on this.
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AuntPollyGrey, please dont assume I had an attitude at all with my husband. Not certain why or how you even cam to that conclusion to begin with.i did state in response here that it was he that became hasty . And no, we did NOT argue over phone or in person. I simply asked why he has questioned me a few times because I simply couldn't give an exact date for time being. And he will NOT be able to take off work while I'm visiting as I simply explained before. It will be just a simple visit as hes aware. The place hes currently staying is gated, and very nice anyhow. So no worries there. I've tried thinking in my head explanations for his snippy remarks this a.m. but couldn't find any since we have not been fighting.
I can understand you feeling aggrieved, it is a difficult situation for you during the week. But he probably feels it too, and maybe he feels guilty about leaving you to cope, then feels threatened by what he (rightly or wrongly) perceives as a bit of an inquisition - this could be difficult for him to come to terms with (he's a man, after all). For goodness sake discuss it in a friendly manner next time you see him, I feel that you're both blowing it up and feeling insecure IMHO. Good luck and I hope it all works out fine.
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Thanks everyone for all the input. I'll be patient and wait to see what happens over the few coming days. :)
Perhaps it be better to visit him one weekend then you can spend some time together and he may appreciate not having to make the long drive home for the weekend. If he works long hours (that's just an 'if'- I don't know) you will only see him when he's tired and he'll need to think about things like meals for you and keeping you occupied during the day while he's out.
Sorry Op but maybe 'hasty' and 'snippy' is somehow lost in Translation . Not sure at all what 'hasty' means but to me if someone described a conversation as 'snippy' then I would presume there had been some aggravation. Please let us know how you get on.
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Yes AuntPollyGrey , he did appear aggravated when he made the remarks but we had only been on phone for literally 2 minutes at the time of conversation took place. It was before he was clocking in for work. Lots of factors could of played a role. But none of which would of made him direct it towards me on a normal basis of us speaking. Anyhow we did speak yesterday again after he got off work. He acted like nothing happened. Odd indeed! Majority of people dont snap the way he did ( this isnt the first incident) and later act like nothing happened. Ugh... wth... its really just not normal

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