Social Distancing With Elderly

[boona]

Hello, I just wanted to vent, I take cooked food to my mum, I leave it on her doorstep and then get back in my car and wind my window down and talk to her from the car for a few minutes. She stays in her porch, over 2 metres away. She told me today that my sister and nephew are meeting her at her house and they are going for a walk and keeping two metres apart. I told my mum that she shouldn't be doing this (with anyone that doesn't live in the same house) She said it will be fine. The worry for me is that my sister is one of the people who has been carrying on as normal and not following any guidelines since before our "lockdown" (having friends round for drinks and going out everyday as normal, therefore is putting my mum at even greater risk) I am so annoyed.

[Apc2604]

I would be very annoyed too. Can you contact your sister and tell her how this goes against the suggested 12 week lock down for the elderly
( of which I am one). I wouldn't be treading carefully with her if she was my sister!

[Bobbisox1]

I agree with APC , ring your sister and tell her NO, this isn’t acceptable , hope she listens but from what you say, I doubt it

[woofgang]

i'd be annoyed but its your mum's choice.

[SlackAlice]

Vent and Rant away ☺☺☺
Had similar from my OH sister. She was insisting on visiting us despite us both being on the vulnerable list and we are both on 'lockdown'.

OH made it 'plain as day' that she would not be welcome and the door will remain closed, she might deign to speak from the upstairs room. I was quite surprised at the language used ☺☺☺

[lady-janine]

Sounds as though your mother has been 'persuaded' by your sister telling her that she (sister) is well and there is nothing to worry about. I'd ring sister and try to let her know how selfish she is being.

[boona]

My mum hasn't been persuaded but my sister doesn't think this is serious so will encourage it.

[MartinMillar]

Your mother is an adult, if she wishes to go with her other daughter, all you can do is say your bit and step back.

[Apc2604]

It's really more appropriate for sister to cancel, than Mum to make the decision. Very often very elderly people are guided by their adult children and don't want to upset them. And Mum isprobably feeling very lonely.

[boona]

My sister will encourage so I am loosing a battle. All I can do, like you say is follow the guidelines and do my bit. If my mum (she is 82 with gets the virus at least I can say I did everything I could do to protect her

[lady-janine]

Good luck Boona. Have to say that it is people like your sister who could put others in danger. I know that's not what you want to hear but sadly it's true.

[pixie374]

In your situation, boona, I would speak to both separately... but if that doesn't work, there is little else you can do.

[calmck]

You could report your sister to the police. I realise this is extreme but you need to consider your mother’s health and well being