Ladies, Sex, Impotence And Medication

[nailit]

if you're a lady and you meet someone who you want to have a relationship with (a male) and he is impotent because of the medication he is taking, would that affect your desire / choice to have a relationship?

I dont want to know about the usual platitudes...(love more important than sex, I love him because of who he his, he's such a wonderful guy etc)

I'd like a bit of honesty. Could you have a relationship with a guy that is impotent because he has to take medication.
And would you live in hope that one day he would be able to 'show' his love in a physical way?
Thanks.

[Retrochic]

fMailit anti depressents do not repel women ! you dwelling on it probably will. Ask your GP for some Viagra http://consumer.healthday.com/mental-health-information-25/depression-news-176/viagra-helps-men-on-antidepressants-511070.html

[anneasquith]

'' they don't print that on the bottle'' actually the information may well be in the literature given with the medication ?

[jourdain2]

This is very personal. I moved in with OH (widower of 17 years standing, then early 70's) because I loved him. We both hoped that a full relationship would ensue and tried for that. It proved not to work. We don't know why, possibly medication for a triple-heart-bypass.

He's not that sort, but he even bought some pornographic stuff to see if it would work - no. I can't say that I wasn't disappointed (to say the least).

You want honesty? I had to think about if I preferred to be with him or without him and how I would cope without sex. I have discovered that you can have a very passionate relationship without physical sex. He is a very passionate man, although I don't have any expectation that physical love will suddenly become an option. We are in a deeply loving, happy relationship and we got married last year.

The first realisation was tough, though.

[nailit]

glad you mention that Fusion. Im 48 and not in my prime anyway. And not so sure that im impotant, more like that I cant last as long. Can 'manage' it for a while and then it dissapears.

[nailit]

jourdain, that was a very honest and hearlfelt (i think) reply. Thank you and best answer.

[anneasquith]

do you self medicate and drink alcohol ?

[jourdain2]

It was heartfelt and no, anne, I don't drink more than I normally did (that's quite enough!)

[nailit]

anne, im taking Mirtazapine. (prescribed)

[mrs.chappie]

It certainly wouldn't put me off giving the relationship a go, if he had that certain something about him.

[nailit]

Time lapse on here means that no one knows who is asking who what?

[anneasquith]

jourdain............. sorry I meant the nailit.

[tamborine]

Be careful with viagra as 1pill can take 3days to wear off for some.

[nailit]

//Be careful with viagra as 1pill can take 3days to wear off for some.//

All joking apart, I once shared a cell in prison with a guy who was a dealer (in all sorts) and he told me that he once took 2 viagra and it was the most painful thing that he had done. Apperently he held it under the cold water tap, tried to get rid of it naturally, and tried to ignore it. It wouldnt go away. He just had weight.

[lcg]

you can take different antidepressants to try and change things if it makes you impotent - if it bothers you that much, your consultant should be listening to you and trying other drugs to see if things can improve. not all of them cause this problem.......and you can always get prescribed viagra if it does. there is always a solution to a psychiatric problem......you just have to talk about it to find the answer. i am a psych nurse who teaches doctors and i also have special training in medication - so if you want any further advice, let me know and i can certainly furnish you with the information you need to demand changes in your care if that is the problem. (i am also quite nuts and have taken pretty much every psych med going, so can also appreciate the horrors that medication inflicts on people!!!). if you want to ask me something private, let me know......

[sunnyflower]

As woofgang mentioned, age plays a great role here. A young lady may wish to have children and this will be the problem that will affect your relationships.
Sex plays a significant role in the couple's life and the younger your lady is, the more intimacy she may need.

Have you ever discussed your problem with the doctor who has prescribed you the antidepressants? Possibly, the change of medications will improve the situation.
You can also consult an urologist in regards to your issue. Nowadays, there is a great variety of erectile dysfunction treatments and I think that a specialist will be able to prescribe you the one that could be taken in combination with your antidepressants.