Family Relations

[Diannegbw]

My husband and I were both widowed. We met after our spouses deaths, and fell in love. His daughter is 30 and married. They are very cold to me. I’m generally thought of as a nice person, so I don’t understand their attitude. They invited my husband to a party, 8 hours from our home. I was not invited. Is it okay if I avoid them in the future?

[middlemarch]

I wonder how soon after his wife's death your husband met you? His daughter may well still be in deep grief for her mother.

[Sqad]

A-H ....the DECISION was easy, the implementation may not have been as it was for you.

[andy-hughes]

Sqad - // A-H ....the DECISION was easy, the implementation may not have been as it was for you. //

Experience shows that you nd I have different approaches to relationships with others.

I understand your ... ah ... 'robust' approach may well render the decision easier for you than it was for me.

[Sqad]

A-H indeed.

[Bobbisox1]

Sqad I don’t for one minute think you are as cold and unyielding as we are led to think you are by you.


To the OP , your husband needs to tell his daughter that this who who he wishes to be with, he sounds like he’s carrying some form of guilt with him ,he needs to prioritise and put you first now, good luck

[Sqad]

bobbi.....I am a psychopath and have had to make " harsh" and unpleasant decisions all my professional life and they have also entered my social life.
That doesn't mean that I cannot sympathise, but I make decisions on fact and not emotions.
Looking back, I would not change that life philosophy although I have made poor decisions at times.

[Bobbisox1]

Sqad, haven’t we all ? Although I’m sure theirs a softer side in you just waiting to emerge ;0))

[AuntPG]

The advice really depends on if Dianne is acceptable of the situation. If she really doesn't mind her OH going off to see his daughter, then she had no obligation to go. I read the question as if she was asking if it was ok to avoid them -my answer 100% yes with knobs on ;-)