Where to start....basically they can start an argument with their husband (regularly) from out of nowhere, then be very verbally nasty and aggressive in the argument, then later on, start crying and making out as they’re the victim and being abused. It’s like they genuinely believe that they are the victim. Also, they just have strange ways about them, for example, they have tea at roughly 7pm and it takes them until turned 10pm to finish the dishes and wipe round, just scrubbing at everything. She also has an obsession with germs and is always detox wiping everything (I understand to a point because of Covid but it’s still OTT). Back in 2014, she saw three ants on the kitchen floor and from that moment up until about 2019 she refused to cook in the kitchen and just ate out every night. Just a wide range of odd behaviours like this. If you was to meet her you would think she was a completely normal educated person, but behind closed doors behaves like this. It can’t be normal in my opinion. Thanks
Your mum has problems with OCD that she has not addressed. She is probably feeling totally miserable.
She takes it out on your dad, what does he say in return? If he says nothing then he isn't helping the situation. He is also probably feeling miserable.
They need to talk to each other or go for some therapy.
I feel that this situation has also impacted on you, you have a very negative view of women. That is not healthy.
'Done his bit'.....hmmmm....
Reading between the lines, I think most women/mothers will have an idea of what that means.
Anyway, Your Mum needs help and not to have her grown son complaining about her on a web-forum.
Interesting just how quick you are to defend your dad but are quite prepared to be so disrespectful about your mum.
If you could just park your immature tantrum for a moment; I think you need to look at the dynamic between you and your dad, and you and your mum. I am sure that you could turn your imagination towards where the problems actually lie.