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Is She Wasting Her Time?
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Daughter is divorced and probably a bit lonely when she was contacted by an old school friend she had not seen for about 15 years.
They have been messaging each other every day for about 9 months and she was really enjoying his friendship and someone else to talk to outside her normal work mates and family. She thought they had got quite close, although she didn't want anything more as she's been deeply hurt by her ex.
He's lives at the other end of the Country now anyway but he did ask her if she was still living at the same address which she confirmed.
Well this week it was her birthday (which he did know) and he didn't send her a card. She's very upset and was even crying about it, i told her it didn't matter but she says she feels that she obviously doesn't mean anything to him, it doesn't even take any effort these days with so many online card places which i kind of agree with.
She feels all those chats and banter meant nothing to him if he couldn't even be bothered to do a couple of clicks of the mouse.
Any thoughts? (Yes she does know im posting)
They have been messaging each other every day for about 9 months and she was really enjoying his friendship and someone else to talk to outside her normal work mates and family. She thought they had got quite close, although she didn't want anything more as she's been deeply hurt by her ex.
He's lives at the other end of the Country now anyway but he did ask her if she was still living at the same address which she confirmed.
Well this week it was her birthday (which he did know) and he didn't send her a card. She's very upset and was even crying about it, i told her it didn't matter but she says she feels that she obviously doesn't mean anything to him, it doesn't even take any effort these days with so many online card places which i kind of agree with.
She feels all those chats and banter meant nothing to him if he couldn't even be bothered to do a couple of clicks of the mouse.
Any thoughts? (Yes she does know im posting)
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.maybe the card just got lost, or maybe he forgot to post it - since he went to the trouble of asking about her address. (Did she actually provide the address? If she just said "same old place" and he got it wrong, then it won't arrive.)
Anyway, forget it. Cards aren't mandatory. They're communicating every day. If she enjoys that, keep at it. If she doesn't, stop. But cancelling because a card hasn't turned up seems petty.
Anyway, forget it. Cards aren't mandatory. They're communicating every day. If she enjoys that, keep at it. If she doesn't, stop. But cancelling because a card hasn't turned up seems petty.
He enjoys a chat with her (he may be lonely too) - but that's it.
Or, he too may be nervous about going too deep after a painful past experience.
And being so distant there's not much future in it anyway.
She should continue the light-hearted cyber-friendship, but seek elsewhere (nearer home) for anything more significant IMHO.
Or, he too may be nervous about going too deep after a painful past experience.
And being so distant there's not much future in it anyway.
She should continue the light-hearted cyber-friendship, but seek elsewhere (nearer home) for anything more significant IMHO.
I understand why she's upset as a woman but also know there are a lot of men like Tony, decent and caring but sending cards is just not on their radar. Plus yes there's online like Moonpig but it's quite a faff IMO, you have to pick a card, select wording, enter address then enter card or PayPal details and billing address...phew I'm exhausted just thinking about it.