What would you do??

[PinkFizz]

Hypothetical question after chat with a friend:


What would you do if you knew your best friends partner was having an affair,and yet your friend not only didn't know,but was also blissfully happy in her/his relationship and you don't think they would ever believe you if you told them.

Would you try and tell them anyway as they deserve to know,and you couldnt stand by and watch their partner do this to them,or would you say nothing as you could shatter their life when they genuinely seem to be happily ignorant to the deceipt??

[spk]

yup ! la la la la la !

[nat_84]

soooo spk - did u stay or did you go (da na na na na na na)?

[noxlumos]

Personally I'd keep my nose out of it, as even if you know (s)he's having an affair and even if your friend is all sweetness and light to you, you don't know how it is for their partner and sometimes you can love someone but they can be an unfulfilling partner in some way, yet you don't want to hurt them so have a careful affair. The person having the affair needn't necessarily be the bad person, it might just be their way of dealing with things.
I say this because I remember a woman when I was growing up married to a lovely man who was having an affair with someone or other, they were very happy and I remember thinking at the time that, but some clever "friend" of hers told her he was seeing someone else and she never approached him about it, just killed herself. Her friend was unaware that she was very ill with depression and her husband was putting up with a lot behind closed doors, so I'd always personally keep my nose out, nor would I wish anyone to tell me if they knew my wife was seeing someone else.I think a couple's private life should be exactly that, private to them.

[nat_84]

Or she might be a fond fan of the Mario Winans classic "I don't wanna know".... (if you're playing me, keep it on the low)....

[spk]

Lmao ! I went Nat but seein him again on sunday in my new crib so who knows, maybe I might let him in the cookie jar then !!

[nat_84]

lol awww bless ur loved up little socks. So it was a good night then? Did u have the dreaded "ex" talk? You moved in to ur new place yet?

[spk]

had mini ex chats but nothing major- Im not too worried about it but being careful. Move into the new pad on thurs so its all very exciting ! Sorry for hijacking your thread pink ! XX

[nat_84]

Sorry pink!

Oh so Sunday might be the night for a bit of slap 'n tickle eh? Need to Christen the new bed too!!

[4getmenot]

pintfull, I would definately tell her, if you are best mates you definately should and her being your best friend she should beleive you. Its a bit different when its just someone you know, keep out. But a best friend, you should always tell the truth to.

[PinkFizz]

lol - thats ok spk & nat - I get used to it!! (only joking!)

[PinkFizz]

Hi 4tuneyplop - !! No,its just hypothetical - but yes,I think I would tell her as well.

[admarlow]

He does Funky House (like Hed Kandi) Its great as I don't have to pay!

[nat_84]

Thats quality! I love funky house. i go to CC Club on a Saturday quite a lot - they play some good funky house there and also have this guy on steel drums who plays along to all the tunes. brilliant night.

[emmacherise2]

I agree.. if i knew for certain he was cheating on her i'd have to say something to her. I'd rather she heard from me than ever found out about it later on then heard that i'd known all along!