does anyone else agree without even realising when you marry a guy, u aint allowed friendships, and no i think not answers i mean without you realising, love blind and all that

[butternut]

answers i mean without you realising, love blind and all that

[redcrx]

pardon???

[Homer55]

Stay off the cooking sherry butternut

[pie+mash]

yeah, right......

NEXT!!!!!!

[redcrx]

P+M is it a yes or no answer then? :)

[4getmenot]

I totally agree

[pie+mash]

Not sure, red...cryptic question, cryptic answer! Lol :�/

[Pippa68]

You marry a guy without even realising?

Oh hang on..I get it. You mean that when you get married, you dump your friends without realising it...I guess it does happen over time with certain people and some of their friends but not all. And when kid come along you tend to make new friends ~ other mums at mother & toddler, playschool & then school. You sometimes end up moving away too..

On the other hand that happened to me without getting married..you move on with your life in other directions quite often, although I do still have 2 very good friends from school ~ we have kept in touch for over 20 years. Mind you we live in different areas of the country but we are still mates.

I think that was the Q, anyway.

[pie+mash]

you ain't allowed friends, Pips. Gawd blimey
must have been blind then if the old man stopped you from seeing your mates! Blow that for a game of soldiers!!!

[tradey]

ummm what was that?

[Pippa68]

Oh right, pie...I kid of got confused with the Q..not really surprising, is it?

In that case a big fat NO NO NO. If ever I caught wind of my partner ever suggesting I don't have any friends he would be out on his ear ~ love may be blind, but it isn't deaf, and controlling partners really 'aint my bag!

[RATTER15]

Try re-wording the question when you are sober!!

[Octavius]

If after getting married, your partner has suddenly decided that you are not allowed to have any friends, then you need to put your foot down and establish that it is unacceptable.

Is he generally a control freak � and you always do as you are told? This isn�t being blinded by love, this is being a doormat.

In a relationship you need social time together and social time apart, whilst not necessarily separate friends, you should be able to go out sometimes with your friends, and him with his.

[spurslady]

What Pippa said is spot on. That is what has happened to me too.

I think what butternut is trying to say is that she has had a big row with her husband (got to be that look at the time the question was posted!!) regarding her friends, She probably does not have the time to spend with them that she wants any more or the husband is jealous that she is spending far too much time with them and not enough with him, or it could be she is friends with another bloke and the husband is pi**ed off with that?

Whatever it is the post was a bit of a cry for help to let off some steam from the confrontation they must have had.

I used to get a bit of the green eyed monster with the bloke when he used to be out with his mates all the time after we had our first child, I couldnt go out like I used to do and I started to resent the fact that he could and with them.

But he is still friends with them they still meet up at the weekends as they have done for so many years.