Opinions please...

[sair5412]

I live alone with my 4 year old son. I work in a not very well paid job and I get help from tax credits. Apart from that I pay all my own bills. When my son was 10 months old his father admitted to sleeping around and we split up. I more or less forced him to visit his son for the next year after that. He did visit but very reluctantly and not regularly. Eventually, following consecutive let downs, I told him not to bother any more. To my shock, he didn't even argue and I haven't heard from him since. I have heard of him and he has a good life, bought his own house, doing it up, lot's of girlfriends and several holidays a year. I am still in touch with his mother and she says he never ever asks how his own son is.

My problem is this. I can't bear for my son to grow up feeling that he has done something wrong for his dad to disown him. Should I get in touch with him again and force meetings between him and my son and just not let my son know it has been forced? As long as he can say he has a dad and he sees him? I just don't know. Also, does anyone have a clue as to how much Child Support should be these days? His wage is approx �1500 a month.

(p.s- I hope people don't think I'm mad, I just have been thinking a lot about this recently.)

[chicklin]

SO sorry ! I seem to have sent that long post twice! My finger has got a stutter!