my friend has just returned from iraq for a 2 week leave, since he has been away i have been thinking about him alot and i feel as if im thinking about him when i shouldnt be (like at work etc when iv got nothing else on my mind) the thing is iv got a weirs feeling inside me when i think about him. he has been best mates with my bf for over 10 yrs and i considor him as one of my best friends too, (he says the same for me) since he has been back iv seen him quite a lot and he has changed, hes upset about going back and he tells me he really dislikes it there, he said im the only person he can tell, but iv got this feeling that wont go away, i dnt find him physically attractive and i never had hes a mate, but i cnt get around this thing im feeling
sorry if you cant make much sense of that but any help would be appreciated tia
Sometimes we form an attachment to somebody and it gives us the feelings that you are getting. Quite often that's all it is - a feeling of affection and actually doesnt last that long, a few weeks or possibly months.
Is everything ok with your boyfriend? If it is, then i doubt you have anything to worry about with your feelings, if not, then maybe you are looking for something that you're not getting from your boyfriend, and he is the nearest thing at the moment.
me and my bf are fine other than the fact that i was abit of sex with him (but we are working on that) i love my bf dearly and i feel guilty for feeling these feelings but i dnt no what the feelings are if that makes sense!
i feel really close to this friend as wen he was away he phoned me reguarly and spoke to me over the phone when my bf wasnt there, and now hes come back hes got a few issues and i really want to be there for him and help him deal with it all, going to iraq has really hit him hard xxthanks
Of course he will have issues. You live in constant danger there. I got my teeth (12) knocked out by a brick through my Landrover in Afghanistan in 2001 and got shot in my leg in Iraq 2003 when the war was on. My head was mashed when i came home so i know how he feels and why he is reluctant to go back. As for yourself i think the exposure on the news etc makes you think of him not in a sexual way but protectively as he is a close friend of yours, lots were like that with me. Honestly when he is back give it 2 months and everything will be back to normal i promise.