Ending friendships

[idalovett]

If a friend really deeply offended you once too much and irrespective of how you felt about them, but they really went OTT and said things that you knew you could never forgive or forget and so in consequence you decided to remove them from your life � would you give them closure by telling them how much they had upset you and why you wanted no further contact, or would you simply pull the plug and not bother saying a word? I don't want an eye for an eye or the last word or to be vindictive or spiteful � but I wondered how a people drop a person/friendship when they know that enough really is enough and cannot condone, excuse or accept what has been said to them. Is it kinder to explain your reasons to your friend and then say goodbye to them or simply think to yourself a goodbye and break all contact immediately?

[idalovett]

I would like to thank each of you for your help, advice and wisdom. I'll quietly distance myself which will be kinder all round I think.

[joko]

i think it will make them confused and possibly pester you.

best to tell them straight, so they are not wondering and making up all kinds of scenarios etc