you hav 2 define 'hurt' i think most people are likely to do or say something which may cause some kind of offence to a potential suitor or partner but most people didnt really mean to cause that and if u bounce them out for anything they may say or do you are looking for a total 'yesbert' who is only going to do or say things which you approve of and if thats your bag, just take a mirror out with you!
There are a lot of us in the same quandary.. but the problem is finding the someone special... if you open up to someone then you can get hurt... but then you wouldn't give yourself the chance of meeting that someone