Dating again

[Xiomara]

Hi,

After 4 years of being a singleton after my marriage broke down, I met a lovely guy and we went out on our first date on Saturday night. We parted company with a hug and an arrangement to go out again this Thursday evening.

I feel this is such a daft question at my age, but since I hve not been 'dating' for many years, I'm not sure of the protocol anymore. If he doesn't make a move to kiss me, is it OK for me to make a move to kiss him?? Is this seen as too forward??

Advice welcome :o)

[ummmm]

Not at all....You have to imagine he feels the same way as you. If you are worried about being to forward he's probably worried that he doesn't want you to think he's trying to get his wicked way.

If he doesn't kiss you on the next date then go for it....kiss him. And remember to enjoy this bit while it lasts....

Good Luck..

[sarnieken]

Ah, the eternal question, to Kiss or not to Kiss.

as Ummmm said, the guy is going to be in the same position as you. As a result both of you are nervous and the thought of the impending goodnight kiss situation can often ruin your evening.

If the first date has gone well and it is apparent that you are going to see each other again then I think a small kiss is acceptable. Save the good stuff for the next time. However, and I've recently discovered this, it is also perfectly fine to just hug and agree to see each other again without one or both parties running away screaming that you're not interested in them.
It shows that you had a good time with them, that you're interested in them but respect yourself enough to not give up all of the goods on the first date.
Anyone will respect you for it and look forward to the next date all the more.

Good luck
K

[winny]

Im with ummmmm.
If you have another good night go for it if it feels right and well done you I hope happiness is only another date away.
Dont forget he is probably in the same boat as you anyway.
Have a good night and relax have fun. Good luck.

[888sally888]

I have to say, I would never make the first move but maybe I am an old fashioned wimp!!

I like the man to make that move.

[havinmysay]

id wait for him to make the first move

[sarnieken]

Interesting to see that everyone here has suggested waiting for the fella to make the move?

This is just through curiosity and because I'm also old fashioned and still wont let a girl pay for anything on the first date (Sad, I know) but why would you wait for the fella to make the first move?

Apologies if this is stealing your question Xiomara but I'm quite curious about this.

[ummmm]

I didn't.....I think she should kiss him.

[winny]

Oh maybe ummm and me are a bit forward then but no time like the present. No point in waiting too long if it feels right.

[angeldraws]

Interesting that sarnieken said 'everyone'..... Who, exactly???