My ex-husband is the next of kin on my passport even though he left in 1995 and we divorced in 2003, I use him because if anything happened he could be there for the kids, even though they are all adults now
What if i had a child to my ex and he walked out on us when the child was 2 years old but payed maintainance .If anything happened to me would my son have to go to the father or my parents who have helped bring him up.Would my making my feelings known in a will make any differance or not.