URGENT boyf help

[starry eyes]

I sent my boyf a txt msg yesterday, breaking up with him. (i didnt know when i was gonna see him next to do it as im going holiday on sat) anyways, he didnt reply and i thought that was the end of it. Anyways, he has just come to see me at work, he has lost his mobile phone at the weekend and wanted my number again. He never recieved my txt dumping him. I didnt have the heart to tell him as it was the wrong time and place. What do i do???? Im worried hel find his phone and read the msg. I still need to break up with him, even those he's a lovely guy, its just not working for me. Please help me

[starry eyes]

I have just tried calling him on his landline to tell him. but there was no answer so i will try again later. I know you are all right. it is highly unlikely i will see him before tom night to tell him face to face, (when i will prob bump into him in a club and i dont wanna ruin his night by telling him when hes out with his mates.) so the next best option is by phone.

[4getmenot]

it doesnt seem to me like you have any relationship anyway, surely he would contact you before you went away if you're sposed to be going out

[starry eyes]

Exactly 4getmenot! Spot on! Thats pretty much the reason why its not working out !!! So do you see where im coming from now!? Weve been ''together'' almost a month now and its pretty much alwys been like that! and thats not the kind of relationship that i want.

[4getmenot]

Kind like the relationship I had we were 'together' but he could do what he wanted but I couldnt and no-one else could have me, because he'd then say thanks I thought we were seeing eachother, didnt have a clue where I stood in the end. Still just ring him and say 'you havent really got in touch but I just wanted to make sure I've got it right that we arent an item anymore because I really dont think this is working'

[joko]

the only time you would ever dump anyone by text is if you don't give a flying fook about them and don't care if they are upset and can't even be bothered to speak to them.

unless this guy has behaved like a prime arse and done something unforgivable (in which case he would deserve the least amount of your time and effort possible) you shoudl at least have afforded him the courtesy of a kind, polite and sensitive split.
it doesnt sound like he has been especially horrible to you, he's just not right for you.

call him. and if you really can't write him a kind and sensitve letter.

[starry eyes]

Thanks for all your answers. I phoned him up again yesterday and told him that it wasnt working out. It was horrable. Iv never felt so bad in my life. Thing is, is that i do still really like him, but it just wasnt working out for me. I told him that i wanted to stay friends with him tho. I hope i havnt made a mistake butdeep down i know that it was the right thing to do.

[WendyS]

Well, I expect you'd be the first to complain if somebody dumped you by text. It's a juvenile ill mannered way of behaving and if you don't have the courage to talk to him face to face I think you should abstain from future relationships until you can deal with the dificult parts of them. Just tell him that it's not working for you any more. Using the fact that you were going away on holiday just seems to be an excuse for avoiding anm uncomfortable conversation.

[starry eyes]

Well it seems that i did the right thing as iv just been told that whilst i was away he tried it on with 2 of my best mates, after crying that he missed me! That says it all really!