More time in nursery makes kids disruptive?

[AB Asks]

Toddlers who spend more than three days in nursery each week are more likely to grow up and be antisocial, according to government research. However it also found that spending more time away from the parents like this increased the child's confidence. Do you think that spending time in a nursery makes a child anti-social? Or is it a necessary part of a child's upbringing?


http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/education/6525039.s tm

[scruffscat]

Oh please....

[kwicky]

During WWII children as young as 2 years old were evacuated to a distant county. They only returned when the war ended, maybe 3 or 4 years absence.
There were many thousands of children who were involved. It would be simple to carry out a survey on their enforced absemce from the parents and how they were affected emotionally. Have many of them turned out to be confident social misfits? I doubt it!

[OBonio]

Research into something so general is an utter waste of the public's money. Every child is different and will react differently in different situations. Also, every nursery is different with different kids from different backgrounds going there. All these differences cannot be amalgamated into one sweeping generalisation!

[missrandom]

actually i know loads of kids who went to nurserys from when they were small and they are definately more confident and as a result, much more difficult. They are all different, but I dont know of any shy, retireing wallflowers that went to a nuresery.

[Le Chat]

If you send your children to nursery, you will think it is fantastic, makes them confident, come on quickly, sociable etc.
If you have your children with you at home, you will think they are secure, confident, sociable, etc etc.
If you have done both, you will pity the child in nursery, with staff avereage age 16...interest in kids zero. Stinky repulsive smells, conjunctivitis running rife, permenant colds and flu, food around their mouths, bumps and bruises, bites from other kids etc etc. Then when you happen to see the nursey nurses pushing your baby around town for an 'afternoon out' you will notice that they couldn't care less that the sun is blazing on your baby's face and that he/she is completely overheated......
I know, I was that mother and I detest the nursery regime to the very core of my being.

[Bob A Job]

thats like saying, 'Everytime it rains, the floor is wet.... Therefore when the floor is wet, it makes it rain.'

The type of people who dont care about their childrens upbringing are more likely to leave them in care for longer. Its bad parenting thats the problem, not the environment they spend their time in.

[NiceCupOfTea]

I'll post back in twenty years to let you all know if my little girl has or hasn't commited an anti-social act in between now and then. This site had better exist that far into the future, or I'll be knackered for reporting purposes.

For statistics, she's now almost two and has been going to nursery all day for five days a week since she was six months old so we could go to work to earn a crust.

Does the fact she bit me the other day cound as anti-social by the way?

[amonty1144]

It's absolute rubbish, it is about parental upbringing and not whether a child is in nursery or not. I'm a childcare social worker and the kids that I work with who exhibit anti social behaviour are generally a product of their parents and poor parenting.
My son went to nursery and is a happy, confident socialable little boy, his nursey was excellent and no 16 yr old oiks in site.
It is hard as I needed to work to feed us both, I like to think I did a good job.
He wishes to be a helicopter pilot in the army, does that make him antisocial?

[TheGopher]

100% think that children that spend most of their formative years in nurseries are disadvantaged. What do they learn of the real world spending their time with a bunch of other kids with paid carers. It didn't work in the communist countries and we should learn by that.

It's about time that parents were given more encouragement to be at home with their young children for that very short time that they are little. Little children need one to one loving attention by someone who loves them dearly. Socialising them in the real world amonst adults and children in everyday situations whilst in the care of a trusted and loved parent is what makes them confident and able to deal with life as they grow older.

I know some people do not have any choice and feel sorry for them.

The whole issue is something I feel strongly about, as you will have noticed.

[missrandom]

here here, to "Thegopher". Totally agree. I think its a bit of a sore subject for some, as they probably feel guilty. I really dont mean that in a nasty way.