One, you always have the chance to apologise - whether you take it is up to you.
Two, you can reiterate over and over again that this has cleansed your soul - you are wrong - childish revenge does nothing to help your soul at all.
Three, ok I apologise if this was not done in your daughters presence.
Four, by asking whether anybody esle had done things like this, you surely did not expect everybody else to agree with what you did?
Five, this woman had a go at you, not anybody else as far as you have told it so how DID others manage? Have you asked yourself that?
I am not going to stay with this any longer, but as you appear to be asking the question purely to salve your conscience after being told by your husband that you had been childish, I sincerely hope any replies will not lead to your doing something as petty as this again.