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[curlyperm]

just reading stokeaces post regarding these parents meeting with the pope, i have stayed away from the posts about this little girl, cos no matter what your opinions are, someone will take offence, but .. watching the news last night and the last few weeks made me think that somehow its always easier to blame someone else when something goes wrong? The fella in Cyprus who rented out a jet-ski to 16 year old kids, and then the fatal accident that occurred where he collided with his girlfriend and killed her.....well how does THAT make it the jet-ski owners fault? ok he should have asked for ID BUT also they should NOT have rented the jet-skis, and the girl murdered by the japanese student.... well millions of youngsters go travelling the world and are OK, why was she in his apartment with him alone?? bit risky to say the least, now her parents are blaming his father, yes i know these are terrible tradgedies and should not happen BUT they do and sometimes you have to take responsibility for your own actions, these are my opinions and i am entitled to them so dont bother having a go cos i'll only have a go back, i am one of the minority i expect -that whilst hoping that this little girl gets found safe! that her parents were to blame for what has occurred, and no-one else, YES we should be able to leave our children unattended but the fact is we cant, and IF WE CHOOSE TO, then we have to suffer the consequences, blaming the Portugese police for being too slow is not the way to go, i am not being heartless here, we have had many holidays with little miss CP, and taken it in turns to go off and eat rather than leave her, not great fun i know but having kids is the decision you make! in the paper last week centre pages and photos of 30 kiddies missing for months and not a single mention? why is this one so different?

[curlyperm]

Silence is deafening........................................

[NiceCupOfTea]

Had my little one been on holiday with , or in the care of anyone even if I just went shopping, and then went missing I would have an extremely difficult time not wanting to murder that person for not keeping a permanent watch like I hope I do.

However, I have the luck of not being in that situation and therefore of having a perspective. I don't blame people who have children stolen from under their noses, and nor do I blame Madeleine's parents for having their daughter stolen from them from what they assumed was a safe environment.

Stupid in case of fire or sudden illness, yes. Stupid in case of sudden abduction, no.

My point was purely that people who will find a way of stealing a child are the people who should be villified not the parents. Yes, we know there are risks if you should ever leave your child unattended. No, I personally wouldn't ever do so (I spent my holiday nights on the balcony of my apartment facing the front door, for e.g.) but people can still get their kids abducted all the same.

There are nasty evil little people out there, but you sometimes forget they exist. It is still the fault of the abductors that they are evil enough to steal a child, and not the fault of the parents that someone was evil enough to steal their child.