Is this normal 2 ?

[woodchopper]

More advice please - our 3 week old daughter wont go to sleep unless she is lying against someones chest and then when you put her down when she goes to sleep - after a few minutes she will waken up and start crying until lifted and cuddled - is this a good routine to get into at her age or will it spoil her ?

[loza]

Be careful as yes it will spoil her! x I know its hard as she's only 3 weeks old so its hard not to give attention but I bet everyone's been wanting to hold her since she's been born and now she's getting so used to it. There's no problem in letting her be held but you may have to be more firm when people visit, if she's ready for her nap then leave her be in her moses basket and don't allow people to keep picking her up. After you have fed changed and changed her and had a little cuddling, leave her be in her moses basket for a while to realise that if she cry's you will be there to comfort her but don't go str8 in to pick her up try to shush her back to sleep first, maybe stroking around her face gently, most babies find it soothing. x

[Psychick]

You will probably find shes finding the sound and feel reassurring because this is what she became used to inside the womb. I agree with loza, you do need to be careful otherwise you may find in a years time, this is still the only way you can get her to sleep. You could also try gently patting her back or stroking the nape of her neck to settle her once shes lying down. When my daughter wasnt settling, I would lay her in her pram and rock her, then go lay her in her moses basket when she was asleep. I was very lucky though because at 2 months old, when it came to night time, I was able to lay her down in her basket upstairs while she was still awake, leave her, and she would drift off to sleep in her own time :)

[Psychick]

Hows it going with the other problem btw?

[amonty1144]

Some babies like the comfort, my son would only sleep at an angle, so the mattres had to be propped up. He is now 5 and likes to be almost upright.
Do what's best for the baby, not the baby police. You don't spoil a child by cuddling it

[amonty1144]

I forgot this, we used a baby sleeping bag. Follow the link for a shop with products and advice, they also sell them in mothercare.
We called it a snugger as they snuggle your baby and it keeps them the correct temperature without blankets. My son loved it, when it went on he knew it was bedtime.

http://www.babysleepshop.com/

[stokeace]

now please dont laugh but my son [he is 23 now] was exactly the same as a baby and my nan told us to put him in his cot and put a ticking clock in with him.we did and it worked honest he slept like a log now its a standing joke with him because hes always late lol.good luck with whatever you try...................

[meltoadhall]

you can not spoil a 3 week old baby !!!!!
they need skin contact and lots of cuddles, my three slept skin to skin on a regular basis, and at about 4 months we moved them from our bed to the cot next to the bed, then at around 8 months to their own room.
As your little girl grows she will get used to sleeping on her own but at such a young age i would not worry about her prefering to sleep against you. after all, 3 weeks ago she was in your womb where it was warm, safe and she was surrounded by you.
enjoy your baby and do what is feels right for you and your child.

[Pippa68]

I agree with mel !

[pilchard]

My daughter who is almost 8months, would never sleep in our room. So at 3 weeks old we moved her to her own room, popped her in a sleep pod so she stayed cosy and also occasionally put mozart for babies cd on the player which worked a treat. The other tip was if she fell asleep in our arms, warm the moses basket with a hot water bottle before placing them in. My daughter has also slept through the night ever since.

[Psychick]

My daughter also went into her own room at a very young age, 2 weeks old to be precise. After two weeks of her never settling, day or night, I decided to try her in her moses basket in her own room. Literally over night she settled into a routine! I actually regret not having tried it sooner! I would get her to sleep by either rocking her in my arms or in her pram, then go lay her down. This seemed to prepare her for when it came to laying her down in her cot while she was still awake. Try whatever you think, or may not think, will work. Every baby is different so you never know :)

[Pam29]

I dont think you can spoil a baby at 3 weeks old either. But what worked for my baby was putting a rolled up blanket in the moses basket next to her. This meant she was in a smaller space and so felt more snuggly and safe, I think she thought it was a person next to her. You could also try swaddling her up tight in a blanket - small babies like the feeling of being closed in - like the womb.

[em77]

Other things to try are swaddling her - most midwives can show you how to do it - it helps them feel secure and cuddled. make sure you put their arms in although I found that when they get a bit older (ie 2/3mths) they want their arms out (and also so they can suck their thumb). Also when you've swaddled them and put them in their mosses basket or whatever, I would always place my hand lightly but firmly on their chest so that they felt secure I guess. It worked for mine! Good luck, and remember to sleep when your little one sleeps which I always forgot to do!

[hopalong]

Sorry if its been mentioned but maybe she gets comfort from the sound of your heart

[ANGELEYES07]

its because of ur heart beat it soothes her....so she is comfortable and feels protected.

[sense4all]

I am no hippie earth mother but the best thing we were given was an NCT womb noise tape, I think that it probably works on the same principle as the clock. The other thing that we did was put the bed linen on us ,when cuddling,so that it smelled of us when it was time to put the baby down -it doesn't smell completely different and alert the baby to a change in environment.

[ANGELEYES07]

i have a 1 month old and he's been doing the same thing but his dr says that its normal behaviour because for 9months his been hearing my heart beat so its more like a comfort but he will grow out of it. plus they say it isnt good to put those little mittens on the baby because that is another form of comfort for them to be able to suck on there fingers and stuff.