im sorry but i am still finding things hard can you help?

[steve208]

Well i am still pushing on in my job in retail managment but really finding it very difficult esp doing a lot of late shifts and not seeing my girlfriend very much.

I am now considering handing mhy notice in and moving up north to move in with her.
Though the reasons i dont want to do this are: i am afraid about telling my parents as i want to move out of home, it would be a very big risk to leave a job without one to go to but i cant take time off for an interview etc. also i have only been in the job for 3 months and would feel really bad about letting the company down.

Reasons to leave: i am not dealing with the stress at all well in my opinion some stress is fine but there is just too much and had a breakdown last christmas due to stress, the job is really not for me i am bord and dont like the atmosphere of retail, it is not where i want to be but thought i could manage to do it for a while until i knew where i wanted to be but i cant cope with it.

[dot.hawkes]

No it isn't a general comment it is based on what i know you do Steve.

[bobtheturkey]

you are allowed days off work you know stevo they are called holidays

[warpig3]

steve why are you putting obstacles in your way, can't go for an interview because you can't get time off!!!! If you really wanted a new job that should be the least of your concerns.

[steve208]

oh dear dot thats quite bad that you know what things i do etc. i am quite predictable.

[bobtheturkey]

i bet he has a really thick brummie accent :)

[cazzz1975]

you know steve, anything you want to do in life will not come to you, you have to make the changes yourself, I think everyone has given you lots of good advice, you can keep putting obsticles in the way but at the end of it all its you that has to make the change

can you imagine you being in the same position in 10 years?? well based on your answers then ..yes I can!

[nursecarla]

Steve if your job is getting you down and you want out of it then you will find a way, maybe sign up to an agency get something temporary to tide you over till you find a permanent job, i think most people dislike their jobs and sometimes you wonder if the grass is greener on the other side often it isn't, but if it really gets you down then by all means change.
Your parents will understand if you want to move out you cant stay at home forever and again deep down if you want to do this then go for it, its not easy making these changes but a little short term pain is worth it if ultimately you end up happier xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[wiggal]

At the end of the day steve, only you can change your situation.
You can either sit around and feel sorry for yourself, or you can make the changes that you need to get yourself happier and a better life.
Yes, its very hard, ive had very little confidence for years, i detested my last job, and some of the people there, but i decided to leave, and moved in with my boyfriend, and now everything for me is great!
I know have a really really good job that a enjoy, working with people i really like. But i could never of got where i am now if i hadnt made the decision to be brave and face what i have always been scared off.

[bigmamma]

Hello steve , well are you really hungry enough for a change? Is there the fire in your belly that spurs a young 24 yr old into a new life venture ?
If the answer to that is yes , then what are you waiting for ?
However , if you are content to sit back and hope change comes your way , then you will have a long hard time trying to decide what to do and when to do it .
Your present boss should have no problem giving you time off for interviews btw. :-) All the best love .

[steve208]

well does asking for time off for an interview not sour things at work as they will then know i dont want to be there?

Well ive spoken to my parents about being unhappy at work they say i have not given it a chance but i have said if it is that it does not suit me then time wont change that. they dont seem to mind me moving in with my gf but wont support me moving if i have no job to go to.

[wiggal]

My god, people have always said i was the worst they knew for making excuses not to do things!
So hand in your resignation, and then use the time you have as holiday to go for interviews.
You will get no where at all constantly making excuse after excuse not to do things.
Inhave read this thread fully, and yes, you have had some very good advice, but at the same time, now reading what people say and your replies, you have hardly listened to anyone, and yes, you do as te saying goes, need to pull your socks up and grow up a bit.
You will never get any independence at the rate your going, and that needs to change!

[dot.hawkes]

We have been telling him the same thing for 2 years now and it is like banging your head against a wall, I hereby declare that I will not reply to another of steve208's threads unless it starts with:
'Hey guys I took your advice and got a great new job and i moved in with my Gf and i feel really good about myself!'

Being cruel to be kind but it can be stressful living your own life never mind someone Else's

[rabbitygirl]

I went into the worst job of my life at the worst time of my life and my blood runs cold now just thinking of the hell of it. If a job gets you down so much - get out. There is always another one somewhere. We parents are suckers - can you get some financial help from Mum and Dad if u need? Moving away and amicably kicking out my 2 sons of 27 and 25 - I really think I've done my bit now and it is time they went on their own. I am in a position to help a bit with money. They are mine and who better to help (its the guilt as well). Did you ever see City Slickers? Curly says the secret of a happy life is one thing. Only u know what that is. Thing is it can take a lot of looking (and waiting) and I dont think many find it at 24, some never. Dont be so negative, listen and trust your inner voice not others opinions. Go on your search. Good luck. Consider yourself encouraged.

[Meg888]

Get out Steve - just do it. Life is too short to spend in a job you neither enjoy nor want to make a career of. As for moving out of your parents and moving with your g/f - just do that too. It might be the wrong move, but how will you know if you dont do it? You are old enough to make mistakes & learn from your experiences - besides I'm a northern lass, and we're a canny bunch up here, you'll be ok - good luck