what people hink of me?

[babycakes200]

hi, im new here, just wanted to know something, its better asking this question to u people who dont know me so ul be honest. im 22 yrs old and iv 3 kids, aged, 5, 3, and 2. im still with their dad and planning to b for the rest of my life. We are very happy and i know we are both good parents. we are nice and settled with our lovely family, but is it wrong? sometimes when i walk down the street i get horrible looks. Is it so wrong to be a young mum?

[nannon]

If you're happy and your children are well cared for and loved - whats the problem?
Some people are just to judgemental for their own good!

[Panic Button]

They probably seem to give horrible looks because they are worried about their horrible lives. (Or they've got wind)

Just smile at everyone, and those that don't smile back aren't worth worrying about.

Anyway at 22, you aren't the youngest Mum by some way!

[raysparx1]

Hello babycakes, you are very young to have three children, but so what, you say you are happy, thats all you need to worry about, if others don't agree with it, that is there problem not yours, ignore them enjoy your children enjoy your life, a lot of people never achieve true happiness, and it is not something you can buy,it is not wrong to be a young mum as long as your children are loved and looked after that is all that matters, good luck, Ray

[dot.hawkes]

oh we had a babycakes on here a year or so ago

[hawky204]

Appreciate what you have! 22 and very happy with a lovely family!

[Shadow Man]

As long as you walk down the street without wearing cheap Asda legging that have become bobbly on the inner thigh, big gold looped elizabeth Duke earrings, drink a can of White lightning and smoking a duty free Benson and Hedges, it makes no odds.

In an ideal world you should have been married first, but hey ho.

Think on the positive side when you are 40, all the sproggs will have left home. How many mothers can say that?

[bowiefreak]

pmsl@shadow is you a woman lol

[Petal~flower]

maybe you think people are just giving you horrible looks.

How do you know that they may not be admiring your lovely family?

In any case, dont worry about what others think. Its your life.

[claire666666]

No its not wrong to be a young mom as long as you and your kids are happy. I to am a young mom aged 26 with 3 kids aged 9,7,2. I have been with there dad since I was 16 and we got married four years ago. My oldest children are both in top groups at school we don't claim any benefits and my husband works hard and i'm at college. When I got pregnant at 17 everyone told me that I had made a mistake but me and my husband have proved everyone wrong and we are now really proud of ourselves for being fantastic parents. You and your partner should be too and when someone gives you horrible looks just smile sweetly back.

[Tigress]

I had my eldest daughter when I was 19. I can't even imagine what I might have done with my life if I hadn't had her when I did. By the time I was 27, I'd had 4, and I know what you mean about dirty looks, especially when they play up when you're in Tescos. A few years ago, my car had broken down, and I was waiting with my children outside my local shop for the bus into town. They were just laughing and playing about when this horrible burley old man emerged from the shop and asked me if "they" were all mine. I answered appropriately and his response was "are you daft, or just silly?". I was enraged, but calmly said, "well um, LUCKY actually..."

[babybombo]

NO its not wrong!
My sister is 26 and she has four children aged 9, 6, 3 and 2 .She married at 17 and is still with her husband and always will be.
She is perfectly happy with her family and it sounds like you are too!
As long as you are happy then it doesn't matter what other people think.
I know what you mean by the looks.
Iam 16 and when I take my neice out , who is one, I always get looks from people who think she is mine. Of course it doesn't help that she calls me mummy sometimes!!
People these days are just looking for something to moan at, and if they havn't moaned at anything else that day then you will be the target, but it could have been anyone!
As everyone is saying, as long as you are happy, then nothing else matters.

[gypsylady]

Dr. Phil says something like: "you wouldn't worry so much about what people think of you if you knew how seldom they did" Their 'look' may not be negative but may be your reflection of yourself (lack of confidence in how you look to them - a young mom with 3 kids). Babycakes, you go girl...ain't nothing can stop a dedicated mom like you!

[helster]

No, you're 22. It's not as though you're 15 with three kids... Don't worry. It's what you think of yourself that counts.H x

[sarah1987]

ignore everyone else babycakes200, whether you are 22 and have 10 kids, its entirely up to you. as long as you, your partner and your children are happy thats all that matters.where i live there is an 18 year old girl who has been in the newspapers alot recently. she has 4 children as her last birth, she had triplets.she is also still with their fathers and also gets looks from people. some people are just silly. you ignore them

[Kleiber]

babycakes - good luck to you, lass! Age doesn't matter, maturity does & you & your other half sound as though you're very mature, responsible parents. I was 36 when I had K Jnr (before we got married - horrors - god knows what my parents would've thought, if they'd still been alive!) & I wish I'd met my dear hubby earlier & had our son earlier too. You're so lucky to have found someone to make your life & family complete so early in life - just think how lovely it'll be to get older together & have all those grandchildren & actually be able to enjoy them instead of being too old. I wish you both all the best!! K :0)