am i being selfish

[its_me_baby]

i have asked my mum in law to have my toddler so i can go to a hen night in 2 weeks time and she has said no.
I know she has no other plans cause on a sunday we always go and visit my hubby (her son) in prison.
I haven't been out in well over a year and she had my toddler every other sunday till may when my hubby was put away. then she suddenly stopped. I think shes just being spitefull cause she knows i been feeling low lately as im home with my 2yr old and baby all the time. She never helps me and im getting really annoyed that she thinks im not entitled to have a break. The last time i asked her to babysit was so i could get my bloody eyes tested and she even moaned about that aswell. Do i say something or should i just ignore her and not bother anymore.

[its_me_baby]

it would be like leaving my kids with a stranger they never have any contact with the kids and my mum won't cause she has work already asked

[megal]

I wouldn't know why she won 't do it, maybe she wants to make sure you behave while her son is in nik, maybe they have a deal to watch you...
Social services have a huge list of qualified nannys in your area aswell as baby sitters. You can get a full range of references from families they currently work for. I think you need to show yourself and her that you can do this on your own.
Go through Social services for the sitter or accept that she won't do it and stay in for the night.
You could ask her why she won't but if she has hidden reasons you wont find out if she doesn't want to tell you.
Sometimes when people won't behave how we want or need them too then it's time we changed how we behave to make ourselves feel better. You may not like the idea of leaving your child with a stranger, but thats exactly what you will be doing when you take them to school and nursery....

Good luck.