Insensitive people

[warpig3]

What would you do if you knew someone who was completely insensitive? They don't mean to be, they just dont think. You tell them they have hurt you and they apologise (they know they have hurt you too, in fact as soon as they have said it they want to take it back, sometimes they try to make light of it and make it worse). But still it happens. Eventually 'sorry' seems to lose its meaning, so do you toughen up, take it with a pinch of salt, learn to live with it or what? warpig

[coggles]

Hello Warpig.

Firstly, congratulations on your good news.

Secondly, how about buying a bib with 'I love my Daddy' on it? ; )

Good luck with everything.

[coggles]

Hello Nox (and smudge - don't I know you from somewhere?)

I haven't posted on here for yonks but I was going to say something very similar to what NOX said.

It took years and lots of fertility drugs to conceive our 2 children. To be quite honest, Mr coggles and me were totally shell-shocked when we finally 'made it'.

It may be that your husband feels the same, not that I am siding with him!

I hope I don't sound patronising as I don't take some peoples 'direct honesty' kindly, I take it too much to heart.

[Miss Random]

Hi warpig, I would also like to congratulate both you and Mr warpig.

I first met you on here when you were considering separate bedrooms due to his snoring (lol, guess you stuck with him!).

I am taking a guess here .. Mr warpig was feeling left out of making (in his male mind) a big decision, not just for the baby but also the home.

Are you very pregnant? It could also be that he has noticed physical changes and you being so focused on maternity that he feels left out... so is effectively 'spitting out his dummy'.

He has had you to himself for all this time and now is considering sharing you with a strange new little person that he hasn't yet met. Remember it is your pregnancy, so he may be feeling he should be more part of it.

I can understand you are also a little more sensitive to any form of (wit or) sarcasm, as you are excited about the baby, so any derision to that will sting.

Mr warpig is a good man (you've told us this), tell him this is the equivalent of 9months PMT. So to tread carefully....

Take care honey and enjoy your pregnancy, I am thrilled for you both.

Missy
xxx

[warpig3]

Morning all.

Just wanted to say thank you all for your replies, they are very much appreciated.

Also, 'Hi Nox, how you doing?'

To Mat Yak. I take on board what you have said but with respect, I am fully aware of my failings as you would know if you had read any of my previous and more candid posts. I know full well what my short comings are, I also asked if I was overreacting due to my pregnant condition. I also stated the mrwarpig does have his qualities. That said, I do appreciate you directness and it has given a different perspective so thank you.

PS. The name warpig signifies nothing about my demeanour or attitude, it is simply an username, no more, no less.