One last post for Drisgirl.
Hi there Drisgirl. I haven't checked out the posts but I suspect that some silly people have upset you and been so insensitive as to deride you in your grief and ongoing family problems.
You have a right to be angry, who could blame you? But, please remember, that hte flames of anger can consume you as well as them, and the quenching blanket of love is what is required right now in you life, so do not let these mindless people stoke the fire of your emotions, for you will get burned as well, and a cool head is what both you and your family need right now.
Do not walk into the trap set by unthinking people, but rather focus only on your family needs, and they need you.
Try to let the past go, and look to the future, and do not take the bait that is dangled in front of you, by those who are devoid of common decency. God bless you.