Insecurity

[miffy63]

I recently ended an 8 year relationship and have now met someone else who I'm crazy about.
My new man is alot older than me (10 years) and is very laid back, which I find very attractive. But he's not very open about how he's feeling, we've been together 2 months now and feelings aren't mentioned. I enjoy his company and we have great fun together, we have lots in common and on the surface it's good, but I feel very insecure and I can't put my finger on why.
Talking to him about this would sound needy, but I do want to know if he feels the same way.
Help!

[woodpile]

It might be his own security mechanism preventing him from showing his feelings. Prahaps he has been hurt in the past over a relationship. I suggest you don't push him to hard, maybe you are now in the position to ask him where he thinks the relationship is going and that may well help him to open up. If he is worth his salt then he shouldn't see you as needy but rather he should understand te reasons for asking.

[miffy63]

He was badly hurt 10 years ago and not long after that his mother died, and he went through a period of depression.
I think you're right about not pushing him too hard, he clearly has to work this out in his own time and i must learn to be patient.
He's 55 yrs old and just wonderful, so I think he'll be worth the wait!

[Dgreenwood]

I am also seeing someone who is over 9 yrs older than me and doesn't like to show his feelings either. It was over his wife leaving him after 24 yrs of marriage. I just think that your guy and my guy has a trust issue. I have been seeing my guy for over 3 months now and I also feel like the needy one in the relationship. So, I am hanging in there just like you are.

[miffy63]

Two very different answers there!
I don't want someone younger, I think that's where I've been going wrong all these years.
I'm hanging in there , I'm having too much fun. As for the trust issue, I shall have to let him know, over time, that he can trust me.

[Poison-Ivy]

Answer maybe bit late but the way I see it is that he is still with you, you're both still having a good time.

I suspect at his age he is older and wiser and my guess is if he wasn't interested, you would know it by know.

Go with the flow and enjoy... all the signs seem good to me. Good luck x