help

[Wild_Foxx]

recently i've just found out that one of my best guy friends likes me as more than as friend. But i have known him for a very long time but i have only ever seen him as a friend and probably always will. I dont think he knows that i know he likes me but i was wondering if i should tell him that i know and would only like to stay friends. My only worry is that our friendship won't be the same.

[DarkMajes71c]

personaly i wouldnt bring it up unless he does.

[whiskeysheri]

Nope, neither would I. It might not even be true and even if it is, it's not nice for him to think that it's been discussed about behind his back.

[skyep]

Hi wild!
I agree with dark. If you brought it out in the open I think he would feel a bit foolish & things would never be the same again xxx

[andy-hughes]

This is one of the major problems in platonic friendships - one side, and it is usually the guy, wants to move it on a stage, and the other half of the relationship is comfortable they way things are.

I would agree - don;t bring it up, but be prepared if he looks like making a move.

It can be difficult to salvage the situation, and the friendship, but it can be done. If he makes his feelins known, tell him how flattered you are, but don;t lay it on too heavy about not feeling the same way - he will get the message from your body language and lack of response.

Although - as advised, someone may be misreading the signals, or the conversation. I have had a lot of seriously close platonic girlfriends, and seriously fancied all of them, and even been in love with some, but never made any move because my philosophy is, if a woman wants to move things on, she will let you know. If she doesn;t let you know, save your friendship from damage, don;t go there.

Maybe somone could point that out to your friend, and save trouble later on.

Good luck.

[Wild_Foxx]

thanks for the comments, its just that i've been in almost the exact same situation a while ago and even though i broke it in the gentest way possible, it broke the guy's heart and i just don't want to have to go through that again