in love ???

[soooomebodyy]

I am currently working for a man. He is about twice my age, but we have a really strong bond, we can sit in his office for minutes and talk about everything else except work, like people and holidays and things like that. Me and my boyfriend are really close friends of them and we do socialise with them often. After a drink or two with them he usually starts to say how smart I am ( because i started working there without experience). We recently had a visit to them where he told his wife that i am his favorit (i dont know what he means by that) and then he just hugged me. We often are alone at work but nothing ever happens between us we just work. Now all of a sudden i think i have a crush on him and i do not know how it happened because i love my boyfriend very much.
what shall i do? if someone has been in the same situation as me please answer...

[Jillius]

You are flattered by his attention and it's always nice to know someone else fancies us. Don't act on it if you love your boyfriend. I think these feelings will pass.

[unhappychick]

Its exciting when you know you shouldnt be doing something but think that "maybe" the possibilty is there! I would concentrate on your boyfriend and try and put these thoughts to the back of your mind till it passes -x-

[Octavius]

If I was interested in a fling with a girl half my age, I would probably tell her all the same stuff. He knows exactly what he is doing and just waiting for you to give in and jump into bed. Either that or waiting for you to make a fool of yourself. If you love your boyfriend as much as you say then you would not want anything to happen.

[BRAVO1]

Let nature take it's course.

[beso]

These theings end in tears. I know a boss who has had a string of affairs at work. He still has his job but those he had affairs with have had to move on.

The girl he is stringing along now doesn't realise what a letcherer he really is.

[soooomebodyy]

Ok, thank you all for all the answers and things it helps alot! Now all i want to know is all of a sudden he keeps on ignoring me, he always had this other way he talked to me and now after the weekend that he was "so nice" with me he just comes in at office and ignores me. Why???

[beso]

Whether you meant to our not you have been giving off the signals you have a crush on him.

Having achieved this ego boost from himself he is cooling it . His wife probably also read the signals last time you met.

[Octavius]

Again, as I said above, he is playing you for a fool. He is thinking.....

Lead them on, encourage them, when they show interest, ease off a bit to make it look as though you have a conscience about being married, let them push a bit more, show some interest but let it be known you are "happily" married" and would never leave your wife, they ease off a bit, then you make a few more advances, a bit of flirting and toucing, et voila next thing you know jiggery pokery over the photocopier, no strings attached and when the wife finds out it was the young hussie in the office who hunted me, and she needs to leave the company.

Classic. If thats what you want, fine. But why not finish with the boyfriend first, eh?

[rosiesunligh]

If you have read my recent postings, you know that I am in a similar situation.
I had a crush on my friend's husband for a long while and then at a party we kissed secretly. I had no idea until then he had been feeling the same way.
I am now in quite a quandry, as I am married, but a lot of the posters on here have been helping me through it.
By the way, my friend's husband is just over 2 years younger than me, so it has nothing to do with age. If you are attracted to someone, then you are and then age is no barrier. I am very flattered that someone younger than me fancies me - I am 41!
You must think carefully about what you have to lose with your boyfriend - you say you love him? Don't do anything (even kiss) with your boss if you can help it.
It just gets your head into one big muddle, you'll feel guilty and angry and confused. I know how these things can develop - believe me I know, from my recent experience.

[Velvetee]

It's not just all about you, there are other people involved too, like your boyfriend and his wife. Hopefully it's just a crush and will pass.

As others have said, you are flattered by his attention, but that is where it should start and end. Do not make any attempt to take it further. For all you know, your employer could be looking on you purely in a protective, nurturing role, so reading more into it will cause problems.

Just concentrate on your job and try not to cross the employee / boss boundary.

[andrea81]

Aren�t you worried that you bf isn't wanting to move in with you on another thread?

On one hand maybe not having your bf showing you commitment by moving in with you is causing you to look for affection elsewhere.

My guess is that you are human and enjoy a bit of a flirt!

[Eve]

Maybe his wife picked up that you have a crush and has warned him that him being complimentary and hugging you may be encouring it so to change the way he is with you as maybe he's realised you may see it differently.

I get on very well with colleagues, we can have a hug and compliment and chat away for hours but it's strictly platonic, nothing in it at all bar getting on really well.

[bms]

He probably read this post