access to my boyfriends emails

[lil75]

My boyfriend, logged on his emails at my flat, my computer has automatically saved his password, and I couldnt resist taking a sneeky peek..however I have uncovered something I am really upset about. Im worried about telling him that I have looked, so I made up a lie and said that someone left me a voicemail anonymously telling me certain things about him (all what was in the email) he denied everything that I said, despite the fact I said I knew it was true and said to him dont lie to me, im not a fool....he still denied certain things, but its there in black and white and I know he is lying to me..I dont know how to tell him I have accessed his emails and blatently invaded his privacy, but Im sure he would do the same if he could, and probably most people would...I dont know how to deal with this?

[Danique]

you should bust him don't let him get away with that, say he has got one more chance to tell you the truth or you are through. if he denies tell him about the email and walk away and never look back

[andy-hughes]

Make your mind up Danique - do you want to be abn adult here, or an 'eleven-year-old ' on the Relationships And Dating thread?

Some of us have been here a while - we notice nonsense like this, so adopt your real personna and don't try to be 'clever', it wastes valuable space which may be needed by others.

[lil75]

Firstly I would like to thank all of you that have taken the time to help me, it means a lot....also a little update, allthough its not much.

I have told him to leave me alone for a few days, and I have been asking questions through emails, all of which he has answered and been honest with me, ive not liked everything ive read from him, but I respect honesty even if its not what I want to hear, I do believe he loves me, but still unsure of wether or not I can come through this, I still dont know, which is why im going to give myself time to think about everything.

Andy hughes:- your so very sweet, if I had your email address, I would probably drive you mad, you'd be thinking, oh god its her again lol x

[MiniN]

lil75, can I ask how long you have been with your boyfriend?

you do deserve better than someone who will lie and cheat. There is no need to put up with it. There are guys out there who will treat you like a princess and will not mess you around - that's what you deserve.

If it was me and I went back with someone who had cheated I'd drive myself crazy worrying about whether they are up to it again or are lying to me. It wouldn't be worth my sanity.

please keep us updated, we're all here fo you.

[mirela]

hus to lil
i had similar experience before, people here do give lots constructive and kind replies, but nobody is in your shoes, you need think about what your expectation and will you be able to get through and if both of you could build up trust again. me still with my bf, we just gradually went through our early stage of relationship, lots arguments, untrsut, sad mood behind, still lots works ahead, but we both learn from it and get over it gradually. life is real, there is not just simply a word of love. appology for my english, hope u can understan me. best wishes for you, dont get yourself down too much xxx

[andy-hughes]

Not at all -

[email protected]

Post as often as you like - I am on line during office hours, and often - but not always, in the evenings.

I have the patience of a platoon of Tibetan monks, and I have lived - and suffered - a bit, so if i can help ...

[mirela]

can i save your email as well, andy hughes, i like to read your replies x

[andy-hughes]

Sure - as long as I don't turn into a full time agony uncle, I am delighted to offer some support by mail if it helps.

A x

[lil75]

Thanks Andy, I have put it on my addresses....allthough im sure you will live to regret it if everyone sees it on here seen as your so good at advice lol!, thanks again! x

[MrBounty]

Can i just add that, if there is a chance of you and your boyfriend getting back together, you have to remember that nearly every argument you have in the future will come back to this......meaning there is a high chance that you will bring it up again, causing more arguments.

I've been there before where something that happened in the past just cant be put to bed, it will always be brought up one way or another.

Just something to consider - do you really want to always remember what he has done whenever you have a disagreement?