all this waiting!

[Petal~flower]

I was with my partner for 4 yrs when he decided to relocate 100 odd miles away for work, Our relationship ended after he emailed me!! that he didnt want the pressure of coming back and forth to seeing me etc.....I was gutted

Anyhow, he dated other women, I didnt date at all. Couldnt be doing with all the messing around.

This year he got back in contact with me (we had had the odd text) and now he is moving back to my area as he says he wants to be with me.

But now he wants me to wait around for another 2 years while he gets money together.

He is a nice man, but how much hanging around can a woman do!!!

There is a lot of resentment in me, for the way he treated me, but he says I should forget it.

I am no spring chicken btw lol...............so am thinking should I keep waiting for him to get himself sorted?

[lindapinda]

You're not whinging babes ! You're a friend !

[EngTeach]

Petal your story sounds familiar to me. Had a similar situation. It left me crushed and if I am honest it still holds me back emotionally. Best to let it go before it chips at your esteem even more. You are too good for this crap.

[pinktwink]

good luck whatever you decide will be thinkin of you x

[lil75]

By the sounds of it, this man has messed you about enough, he is the one calling all the shots and expects you to go along with it!!! Only you know what you really want so im not going to tell you what I think you should do, its your call, but seriously this man needs to gain some respect for you...good luck, whatever you decide to do xxx

[know-noknow]

i could fit you in on a thursday????

[raysparx1]

Hi petal, good to see your name on here, please e-mail me if you want to talk, take care and no hasty decisions, Ray xx

[lil75]

Im sorry but had to reply again, just read all your replies...he reckons you should just forget that he dumped you by email and about all the other women he has been with....why? for his convenience!!!! and saying that you wont have a future together if you dont forget it!!! unbelievable!!!

Another thing that concerns me about this, is that you have your own home, mortgage etc, what happends if you sell your home and buy a house together and he decides to sod off after a couple of years, you will be left with hardly anything out of it...stay where you are, you have secured yourself a life...please dont put it in the balance for this man....seriously my dear, you deserve soo much more than uncertainty, and thats all hes giving you at the moment...uncertainty. Find yourself a man that can give you security and a sense of self worth, you will feel so much better for it xxx

[sleepyj]

hi dont let him mess you about anymore ! your worth more than that ..only u can decide what u want so good luck with what ever u do xxx

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[China Doll]

He sounds like a prize knob head, tell him to jog on.... I'm sure you can do better. Even if you end up single for the rest of your life it's better that than with this luke warm fella. It's not better to be in a relationship and unhappy than to be single.