Words of condolence needed

[mrs_overall]

I'm trying to write a letter to a couple who lost their baby (miscarriage) earlier this week. Can any of you help with appropriate suggestions please?

[zzxxee]

i had a miscarrige a few years ago and i found a simple if there is anything you need dont hesitte to call me , you are in my thoughts at this time love......

[after8]

if you are close too them let them know you are near for a shoulder to cry on.otherwise keep the message very simple.x

[daffy654]

Don't be tempted to put something like " It wasn't meant to be" or "you will have other babies in the future". However well meaning, they are quite hurtful things to hear when you have just lost a baby. I would go with zzxxee's idea of just offering a shoulder to cry on.

[zzxxee]

i totally agree with after8 but i found flowers were to much when i lost my baby because they reminded me of funerals and you are mourning a loss of a baby you can never bury or have ever held its vey hard

[sara3]

I agree with zzxxee. when it happened to me I saw people getting out of cars with flowers and I found it horribly depressing, although I know it was good intentions.

just a "thinking of you at this sad time" would do it. don't do a great out-pouring of emotions.. keep it simple.

[zzxxee]

is any of this a help mrs o?

[mrs_overall]

Thanks to all of you for your suggestions.
I'll go with the majority and keep it short.

It's ironic that I need to ask for advice on this one as I've been in this situation myself.

[zzxxee]

i think every person is different mrs o and sometimes when you have an experience in common with the person your offering sympathy to makes it harder

[mrs_overall]

You've hit the nail on the head there zzxxee!

Thanks again.

[zzxxee]

you are very welcome thanks for the stars and good luck with the card and my sympathies to your friends