birth certificate in Scotland

[lmacdonald]

I am an unmarried mother in Scotland and have not put the father of my child name on the birth certificate. We have had and are having a very difficult relationship. He is continually asking to have his name put on this and has sent me a 'Declaration as Parentage by Father' and Declaration by Mother form'
He has contact with her with a Court Order but has been continually harassing me by phone etc and is really nasty. I really dont want to put his name on the cert as he will then have parental rights and responsibilities. He gives me �5 per week through the CSA.
Where do I stand with regards to name on birth certificate?

[pink-kittens]

Get his name on the cert - it is your daughters right. Just because he treats you like dirt doesn't mean his daughter cannot have her dads name on her birth cert.

Take your feelings about him out of the equasion and think about what your daughter needs

[benchmarrow]

My father's name is not on my birth certificate which, in the 1970s when i was born, was unusual. I support you in what is best for you and your child. I am glad my fathers name is not on- my mother and he split when i was 13 months and i have never seen him since- his name means nothing.

I do think you need to make a choice though- you either take the money and put him on the certificate- or you cut him off- money and all

[bednobs]

this really takes the biscuit!

You want him to have the responsibility to pay for his child, yet you are not willing to aknowledge he is her father. Whilst i would normally advocate that the money side of things and access side of things should be kept seperate (ie can only visit if he pays money) the truth is that he IS the father. You chose him to be the father, and no matter how much of a mistake you think that was now, you cant erase your daughter (who I think has a right to have her fathers name on the certificate) and i suspect you wouldn't want to. You have irrevocably bound yourself to this man for ever more by bringing a child into the world with him. He has a court order, so no matter what you do he will still be seeng her. Here's a thought - perhaps he would stop harrassing you if you put his name on the birth certificate?
I am really sorry that your relationship is troubled, but unless he is a danger to her, i cant see what the problem is with having her own father having rights and responsibilities into how she is raised. After all she is not just your daughter, she is his too, not some possession of yours. I dont know what the law answer is to your query, sorry

[lmacdonald]

I need a legal answer to this question - I will happily take no money. The money he has given has been spent on solicitors fees because of him.

[pink-kittens]

But why wouldn't you want her dad's name on her cert?
I don't get it - why would you want to cause yourself grief when she gets older and asks why his name isn't on it? What will you say, or will you lie? What will you then do when she finds out the truth? This can have much further reaching problems at a later stage in yours and your child's life and personally, I don't think you have looked further than the end of your own, very short, nose