date rape, this is all so messed up... pls help

[oh-nooooooo]

I'm 100% sure me and a friend were drugged in a club last wkend. I have very vage memories of the night as does my friend. It all got very strange after a drink this guy got us (we were all at the bar, however, my friend and i were chatting, we were a bit drunk admittedly) I

have had a few flash backs and there is alot of blanks. But i gather, me and my friend went back to this guys house, and ended up having sex.

I felt very out of it, and things that i would definantly have said no to happened. Didnt feel i was able to say no. I've been married for years and a mum, my friend in a loving, live in relationship. Neither of us would or have cheated before. (I've been drunker on many occasions)

I had to have a STI test today, and it messed me up. I seem clear but who know re HIV and Hep B. i also reported it to the police. I felt very wobbley and emotional all day, but after reporting it, i felt calmer, and more in control, but numb towards it.

I rang my friend told her, what i did today, yest she was sure that we were drugged, but today, she's not sure, as she often has blank outs when drinking. I'm well confused.

I think she's panicing as she dosnt want to tell her bf what happened. I dont want to tell my hubby but know i have to, have no idea how he's going to take this. What makes this harder is he knows this girl and her bf. I think she's worried that my hubby'll tell her bf. I still have to tell my hubby about it - dont i? How can i stop my hubby talking to him, when he finds out?

Does anyone know of any support lines that help the partners deal with their partners going through this kind of thing?

my head is eveywhere. dont even really know if that all made sence

[~max~]

My complete distrust of you doesn't mean I don't trust anyone anymore, Gravy. I want to believe that there are people out there who wouldn't post about a sensitive and personal subject just for kicks. I know you're a tw4t, but it doesn't mean everyone else is.

[grasscarp]

For those who believe this is real. Would you go to the police without discussing it with your friend who was there? would the police not say we need to talk to the other person? This is all such rubbish I dont know why anyone takes it seriously for a minute.

[gruntie]

wrong again jack. I am female

[jackthehat]

Well, I'm surprised ! Usually such judgemental comments come from ill-informed men.............

[BRIZE]

Question 1 - Why cant a "greenie" be believed.
Question 2 - When does a "Greenie" stop being one.
Question 3 - Do we prejudge everybody because of the colour of their font.??

[jackthehat]

It's not whether this is a wind-up, it's your comments in general...............

[gruntie]

jack,this site, is ******* amazing.

if you are in green letter on here, your comments mean *****.

I only said what I thought about the posters comments. ie. they didnt ring true

and they dont. I dont care if you think what I say is rubbish or not. Its what I think. Did I make any comments about what you had posted?

this site is so up itself sometimes its unreal

[Ice.Maiden]

Date-rape's a serious subject, but I have to think there's more to this, or it's a wind up, because grasscarp's last comment was right. If oh-nooooooo reported this to the police, then they would've wanted to speak with the friend who was involved. Also, a trained officer would've taken statements. If the story's true, the police'll be in contact again anyway, to try and re-trace the journey from the club to this supposed man's home. Oh-no seems more concerned about the friend's partner finding out what went off, but any sensible person would've gone straight home and told their partner about such a terrible ordeal. I'm afraid I'm sceptical.

[jackthehat]

Calm down.............you claim to be a long-term poster, you'll know full-well then just what this site is like.........

You may disbelieve the poster.............until you have 'proof', however, surely it would be kinder to walk away from a genuine post rather than make a situation worse.............?

[OldJoke]

gruntie wil u be my online boyfriend?

[condom]

ice.maiden who cares what u 'think'

u accuse every post of bogus and blame me for the really sick ones. so just ignore it you wierdo

[gruntie]

jack, I have seen you on this site before, and often admired you for your replies. (my reasons for being green and with new name are personal )

so yes I know how this site works, I replied to this post, because, it ******* annoys me. OK. And my wrong decision to reply. So my problem.

sorry OLDJOKE honey, I am female

[jackthehat]

Ok, gruntie............:o)
I suppose we are all entitled to 'off-days', I probably have more than most..........

Apologies if I have annoyed you more than strictly necessary........:o)

[gruntie]

thats OK jack

all entitled to our own opinions x

[jadeymodel]

ok...firstly you say your 100% sure you got drugged? So why the post? If you know you really got drugged?
Secondly if you was 100% sure-Why didn't you make a statement sooner??
I'm not trying to be patronising in the slightest, I am meerly asking from curiosity. You see i study Forensics, one thing I've been doing as a project for Forensic toxicology is the date rape drug! have you actually tried looking up symptoms of such? For starters do you have any other symptoms or just memory impairment?

they say we learn from your mistakes and perhaps this has been set to teach you a lesson. You really have to watch your drinks in a club, date rape drugs believe it or not are tasteless, oderless and colourless, even in water, so the chances of knowing that you have consumed such is slim. Always watch your drinks, Never accept drinks from strangers...Might I ask why you and your friend both in relationships accepted drinks from another man? This may have gave the wrong signals. I really cannot help but think what if this guy is innocent. Innocent until proven guilty they say and drinking does cause memory impairment. If this happens in the future please, please, please get tested for this the morning you wake up. The date rape stays within the body for 72 hours...After all traces are gone. Please be more careful in future. I really hope your family & your friends family are ok, aswell as you both.

xx

[sqad617]

jade.....great answer, pity it is wasted on an "obvious" windup,..............but a very good and accomplished windup.

[caboob]

I think this woman is playing out a fantasy here. I think she would like this to happen but she is married.

[jadeymodel]

a wind up???
How gay!! Why joke about something like this??? you joke about this to an actual victum of such and they'd only do to you what I can wish! *virtual slap* Not funny and a waste of my time! Thanks!