He's invited the in-laws on holiday!

[jem_bob]

So do I have the right to be furious? Quick rundown... just had fairly serious operation, jaw broken and re-wired in new position. Have had rough time of it so booked a lovely holiday for boyfriend and I at end of August. Spent hours trawling the net for a good deal and nice place to go. Finally get it booked last Friday, after having had NO help whatsoever from the other half. He then announces yesterday that his parents and little sister have also booked to go to the exact same place during the same time as us. Boyfriend is very much a Mummy's boy with her sending him several texts every day, pestering and just generally wanting to know everything about his life. I can now see my lovely holiday being spent with them (very stressful as the Mum is constantly fussing around her grown-up children). The other half says it'll still be our holiday, but I know it will just not be the same, we'll be forever 'bumping into' them in the resort and they'll be making contact every day to find out what we're doing. It turns out that his Mum consulted him almost a week ago to ask if we minded and he didn't feel the need to even discuss it with me, because he knew I wouldn't be happy about it. Says it all really! He's now left it until it has been booked and paid for to tell me. And says he didn't think it would matter. Am I overraccting?

[ACtheTROLL]

awww come on - bl@@dy psychiatrist - get real.
he's just a mums boy - you need to start talking - you can't stop her texting .... and you shouldn't try - but he can !!!

my mum still brings up the first time I went to pictures with the love of my (then) life (16) - before that - I just didn't have enough money .... "I never did get to see .... "

people have family ties - I later went out with a girl - saturday - the whole family went to t' club - after the first turn - bingo for the women - darts for the men.

god it was hell - no way that was ever going to change ....
but sunday - friday good grief - i could hardly walk .... it was a hard (very very hard decision) - but I just couldn't face the club

the obvious opportunity has gone

it's up to you now to negotiate and come up with a cunning plan ... nothing wrong with a couple of dinners (if they pay) and a day on the beach - if it's going to go anywhere you should get to know them and feel comfortable with them

but equally - he should be willing not to see them - and get comfy round you (fnah)

[jem_bob]

I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 and 1/2 years so of course I have got to know them! This is precisely the reason I don't want to have to put up with them. The Mum is interferring and just cannot leave things be, the dad is lazy and the Mum has spent her entire life doing everything for her kids and giving them everything they want, so the little sister is spoilt beyond belief and appreciates nothing. I have spent �600 on this holiday, so can't not go. And I really am not going to cancel MY holiday away because of them. I will go out for one meal with them and the rest of the time I will act like they're not there. I just hope to God they don't spot us every evening when we have to walk right past their damn hotel on the way into town. I bet they did this so that they could 'accidentally' bump into us each evening.

[ACtheTROLL]

you've answered the question - his mum has nothing else ...

and your b/f is stuck in a lifetime habit. - heck I'm 53 visit my mum (78) every week and she insists on feeding me, making tea, bought slippers, blah blah - it drives ME nuts - wife understands - but it works well ... ma joins us for xmas diner - feels more comfortable at home - and hates food she's not cooked - so I pretty much control the visiting.
of my generation - just about every bloke I know complained that new mum was now neglecting him "in favour" of nipper

teens are so obnoxious (I think) so that it's a relief to let them go - in a balanced family kids move on.

Boys swap mum for partner - but in both world wars ... it's well documented that most casualties died wanting their mum

if the usual progression happens -
that's you in 20 years ....!!!!! ;-{}

[katerich48]

You could try chucking a sickie.. tell him that you don't feel up to doing anything i.e. sandcastle...waterpark...and as for dinners out en famille..... take restful naps so that you end up going out fairly later...hopefully too late for the rest of the family..