how to stay strong when you spilt with someone...

[joko]

any tips?

i just want to call him...and i just know i shouldnt...one minute im strong then i start to weaken,,,

thanks

[joko]

thanks everyone

yes 4get, i will see what he does, see if he tries to sort it out...so far hes been a bit stroppy and indignant...but obviously he was pist off with the argument...onec hes thought a bit maybe he will listen to what ive said and try to work it out...we'll see...

loftie, yes i did see it, thanks, i am going to give it a go

[joko]

you were being rude society and im not interested in it

[joko]

i suppose i dont want to turn my phone of because i was to know when and if he calls or read any messages...i just want to know what hes thinking now too...

i will put it on silent i think so i dont answer it...

[LoftyLottie]

If you both love each other then it's worth trying to work it out. We did and have been married for 38 years and we still argue loads and probably aren't right for each other. But love is the key word!

[society]

I was not rude, that's how you interpreted what I said. I was aiming to make you smile when I said "Don't cry so loudly, I can hear you".

You poor soul, you're sensitive right now, I understand.

[mccfluff]

ok so i'm reading this as you're not quite 100% sure its over and want to hear from him about how he feels?

perhaps send him a text saying you're not ready to talkt o him just yet and suggest meeting up in a couple of days?

[joko]

yes loftie...thats the key here...i love him and he loves me loads...we are just chalk and cheese...but i am happy to accept our differences...even the ones i dont like...but he wont...he just wants me to be how he expects.

last year he wanted kids with me...im glad we didnt...but he sees his future with me...i just dont know if i can see one with him..not anymore...

[joko]

society - you told me probably wasnt interested in me and obviosuly didnt care enough to call...you also more or less told me i sounded like a teenager...
whteher you meant to or not, you came across as rude...but never mind

your comment about hearing me, did make me smile...

[joko]

mcfluff...i know it has to be over because i cant continue like this...so unless hes prepared to properly talk and make an effort then it is totally over...i guess i just want to see how much he cares about this... and whether he is ready to try...

[society]

"i just want to call him...and i just know i shouldnt...one minute im strong then i start to weaken,,, " - this is typical teenagers'

I asked if you were a teenager, not said you are one. That's why I asked how old you are, didn't want to accuse you of being what you're not.

Why hasn't he called you? Don't you think what you've said to him has affected him also? In your case looking at things from both sides might shed more light on the outcome of the relationship between you both.

Anyway, it's never my intention to be rude to you (or anyone), pity you took it that way...

[mccfluff]

like i said tell him you want a couple of days and then meet up to talk it over, ob things have to change if you are to carry on, he needs to think about that

[joko]

they just sounds like normal words to me society...you read it with 'teen' in mind...anything can sound teen if you read it that way...

thanks for your other comments but i suggest you read the posts properly first ...

seriously i dont want to argue here

[LoftyLottie]

Best wishes anyway Joko. I hope it all works out for you.

[joko]

thanks all

yes ill tell him im open to trying again but things must change otherwise thats that

thanks