would you do it?

[merciasounds]

Talking to a friend on the phone last night she informed me that my god daughter, (the daughter of a mutual friend of ours) is getting married in October this year, did I know because I hadn't mentioned it - everybody has had their invitation. (hubby and I haven't) Over the years, I've been a little silly with her and indulged her perhaps a little too much with presents that she 'desperately wants', I have also paid for her to go on her last trip with the school (ski-ing to Verbier) bought her tack for her horse, paid for a block of ten driving lessons, and bought her a 'Prom dress and shoes' when she was at Uni. I don't begrudge any of this, but a thank-you note would have been nice. I've told you this back story so you can see what type of girl she is. Anyway she phones me up this morning to tell me she's getting married, and she's not invited me because *I* will be doing the catering. Not asked, TOLD me! There's going to be a marquee on the lawn, etc, and she's coming over to discuss menu's with me next week. I told her not to come, because I wouldn't be doing it, and I put the phone down. she immediately rang back but I switched it to the answering machine. her mother, my friend has phoned too, apologising, saying perhaps we could 'work things out'. As far as I'm concerned, there's nothing to work out - but am I wrong?

[tinkerbell23]

thinking of u mercia still...this probs playing on ur mind...hope it all works out xx

[Greedyfly]

I would be annoyed also if someone just assumed that I would cater they're wedding. She sounds a little spoiled unfortunately and I would assume that she has only thought of herself in this case. I would ring her and tell her that you would like to be at the wedding rather than cater (if that is what you want). How rude!

[merciasounds]

I actually added more to this, and I was so annoyed at the time i put it in chatterbank by mistake! I've written her a letter. I won't be doing the catering, and I won't be going to the wedding, and no, I don't want to see the gift list either, this gravy train has left the station. I've had friends of friends phone me up, and her mother phone me to work things out, when I told her mother what she'd said, she said to me, but i'm sure you're mistaken" So i played back the recording, and there is 'Princess' spouting all this i didn't invite you etc, after I said to her mother, NOW do you believe me - she had nothing to say, sop I said, 'nothing to say ________ - I thought not, and put the phone down!!

[jack daniels]

stick to your guns mercia, you've got to think of yourself healthwise & expense wise too & like already mentioned - weddings are costly. Like her/her mother/her father take responsibility. How rude to be expected to do it & not even think to invite you to her big day, sitting with other family/guests enjoying the day rather then treated like a slave! Don't let her sway your decision.

Anna x

[Greedyfly]

I agree stick to your guns. What a shame you have ended up in this situation but I am sure she will see the error of her ways (although it may take some time).

[merciasounds]

I know her father is regretting things, he may have to postpone his early retirement! a friend of a friend etc, told me, and I don't know how much of it is true, but the venue she's got they want £4,000 for what she wants....my hubby told me at uni this guy was known as squeaky as he was so tight! 'Princess' said to this woman that she hoped if I'd have done it it would have cost her about £750-£1000 - yeah right! Prawns starter lamb or steak, veggie option, desserts (mini ones, three to a plate) champagne, coffee and petit fours

[Greedyfly]

Sounds like she has led a very sheltered spoiled life so far... She will learn when she starts pushing people like yourself away. I would never in my life expect anything from anyone and I certainly would never expect someone to do something for me for nothing in return.

[jack daniels]

Don't even go on this ride mercia! stay off this one

[tinkerbell23]

good for you mercia....u dont need that kind of sh!t xx

[pastafreak]

What an absolute insult!
Not just that she 'expects' you to do her catering and stated that you were not invited. But you are her godmother ...you are / would have been the parent / guardian had anything ever happened to her birth parents. She has some nerve walking all over you. Does she do that to her mum?? Good on you if you are not going...let her enter the real world.

[bednobs]

you recorded your conversation with her? That seems a bit odd! Also how do you know what she wants (even down to 3 individual puddings) if you just put the phone down on her?

[supersuezy24]

Did she think you would be honoured to be doing the catering and therefore would not want an invitation because she was so nice to tell you you were doing it. What a joke. I'd be peeved too

[merciasounds]

I have a strange and old answering machine bednobs, if you answer the phone while it's switched on, it records the conversation - it's years old ...at least...19 years old!and I keep meaning to get a new one.... if i'm baking/cooking which is usual during the day I switch it on in case it's an inopportune moment - eg floury hands, taking stuff out of the oven etc. At the time she phoned I happened to be right next to it watering my plants

[Count-A-Strong]

I apreciate you're angry and upset and probably get some comfort from all the words of support but you need to let this go as it will eat you up. Put it behind you and move on.

[merciasounds]

I couldn't care less now Arthur, just being polite and answering people who've taken time out to reply. :-)

[lotsafun]

totally agree with the count on this one. Dont waste your energy on this spoilt brat, you so deserve to be treated better than the way she treat you :-)