Bad apple

[david small]

My grandson12/13 punched his mother in the face, and grabbed her, called her a bitch and threatebed to hit her again if she removed any item from his room as a punishment. any idea's

[Barmaid]

Cazz I know. We are having a rather difficult time at the moment. He progresses and then he plateaus. At the moment we are on a plateau where if he can't do exactly as he likes (and it is not just autism, there is a form of brain damage there too) he throws a tantrum which results in violence aimed at the person he perceives as his "enemy" (and you can become his enemy by something really simple). It's dealable with, if not a little distressing.

[cazzz1975]

I appreciate your problems barmaid, stay strong x

[4getmenot]

My mate called the police on her child when he was using catapult uptown to break peoples windows, he was taken to police station and put in a cell then given a talking to, scared cr@p out of him

[droopdrawers]

A friends son was similar to this and has been diagnosed with ADHD

Perhaps the lad should be checked out by a GP.

Hope something is sorted soon as it must be soul destroying for you all.
DD

[joeluke]

Lack of discipline as a child brings on (mis)behaviour like this

[EngTeach]

Sounds like ODD-Oppositional Defiance Disorder. My friend's daughter is controlling it with medication. I had never heard of this until she was diagnosed. My nephew also became violent "out of the blue" and it was discovered he had been "huffing"-they use the aerosol propellant to get high. When the high wears off and the craving begins, the violence comes out.

[Fullofsorrow]

David Small Im sorry to hear about your grandson but this is an issue that has to be dealt with now as it will only escalate till the boy beats his mother frequently steals from her and makes her life a living hell to the point where she will want him out of her life. Ive seen this with my own eyes happen many times in my life and it starts with something like this though usually the kids will push or slam the door on their mothers not punch them in the face and further threaten them. As joeluke said this usually comes from a lack of disciplining them which is another thing many single mothers a re guilty of because the child only has one parent the mothers usually feel guilty and then let the kids get away with everything. She has to take back the authoritative role in the home maybe doing a self confidence class joining a difficult parenting group or something similar to help her. What did she do after she was punched in the way of punishing him?

[ummmm]

So this the first time he's done it. He's only ever got into one fight at school before. Is doing very well at school?

But he's a liar and a thief and hit his Mum because she tried to confiscate something?

Why are people trying to label him...he's being a little sh!t and is getting away with it.

If my 13 year punched me in the face the consequences would be severe.

[lotsafun]

have you tried ringing social services for help?, not to take him away but for help and support for your daughter and her son. Could he possibly have a underlying problem such as adhd etc. If so then perhaps social services could help with this.

[China Doll]

Social services should probably be the first port of call. Contrary to popular belief, they don't just lift kids up and take them away, they prefer for children to be at home if possible. And they can offer support to mum AND child. I would agree that this is not normal behaviour and somewhere is a route cause.