BF TROUBLE

[JAC25]

Hiya.

My bf has recently been having some family troubles and his mind is all over the place. We have been arguing quite a bit and last week he came home (he lives with me and my parents) and said that he wasn't sure if he wanted to be with me anymore. He didn't know the reason why. The next day he came back to say that he did want to be with me but needed some space and was going to live at his parents a few days of the week. Turns out he has got freaked out about commitment (we have been together for 4 1/2 years) and says that he doesn't want anything serious until he is ready which won't be for a while.

I can't think of anything worse than losing him and am trying everything I can to put the spark back into the relationship (organising dates, sending him sweet messages). I really think he is the one and would be distraught if he left me. The last few days he has carried on as normal and is really affectionate. Do you think that I am silly for waiting around and hoping that he is happy again or is this just a blip?

Please help, I'm so down :(

[Sqad]

woody oi! that was my advice.........lofty just cribbed it off me.

[Woody23]

I think you are a very sensible person too sqad, and I apologise for not giving you the credit that you deserve! We are all therefore, of a similar mind. :)

[LoftyLottie]

Sqad: :o)

[Sqad]

woody ;-) she´s so bl00dy clever that lofty wench ;-)

[woofgang]

I agree with lottie...He's got you on a string...let go...if he comes back great, if not you won't have wasted so much of your life

[Le Chat]

As much as you don't want to contemplate it, he could have met someone who he quite fancies and wants to try it out, hence the sudden 'not wanting to committ' after 4 1/2 years. He wants to dip his toe in the water, so to speak.
It could be a blip but you need to hear the alarm bells and protect yourself,,,,and your heart. You need to ask him to move back to his parents and you need to think what you want to do, it's not all about him.
If he truly loves you, then it will work out and if he doesn't then it won't. Surely, you wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't truly love you.

Remember this..."Man will move heaven and earth to be with the woman he loves." Don't accept anything less. x