Seeing a pregnant woman

[andypandy10]

Hi all

I met a girl 2 months ago online, she was just "looking for friends"...we hit it off and have been seeing each other. she was just over 6 months pregnant at the time and has an 8 year old son, we are both mid 30's. her ex husband left and declared he was having an affair just prior to her finding out she was pregnant.

Shes lovely, honest and gorgeous and we have fell in love these past 2 months and she is due the baby in 4 weeks time.

I get on great with the 8 year old and vice versa and although I think I am looking forward to the new baby I keep getting this huge discouraging feeling as its not mine and it hurts and confuses me, question is will I be able to bond with this baby and do her/the kids justice?

Anyone any experience with this type of situation?

PS - I am divorced with no kids

[gina32]

what a lovely person you sound i hope things work out for you, she is a lucky woman

[andypandy10]

ok jemima I hear ye

not wanting u to get a hard time either

have peace x

[andypandy10]

to Jemima

You have a heart for re-conciliation, a great quality to posess

Thanks for your kind words (eventually lol)

[SizzleSquid]

whatever you think dont lead her on or suddently get cold feet shes on her own and has probably been relying on you for love and support.
The new baby will only know you when its born-do you want to be its stepfather? I will tell you the baby will bond with you although!
How would you feel if the father suddenly decided he wanted contact with his child? You need to discuss this with your gf-is the 8 year olds dad the same as the baby's?
Are u absolutley sure this woman defiantely wants to be with you and genuinley loves you and she is not just with you because she feels vulnerable/ alone/ insecure considering her position and the trauma of what her husband did? she could feel very different in 1 years time uve only been together a hot minute. Take a step back, evaluate the situation and si down talk to her. Remember her son has just lost his father/stepfather whoever he was to him. Im not trying to put doubts in you im sure you do love each other but go in eyes open.