i've seen the light! i've just been reading some of my older posts about my ex and i, and our turbulent relationship, and i can CLEARLY see a controlling pattern going on. I'm pretty confident that i was a victim of control, but hey, i was weak. I'm now feeling so much stronger, new house, left job, going to uni (as a mature student- oh im old!) but just when i'm thinking i'm over him, an eerie, gut wrenching feeling comes over me and thinks of him with another woman. I'm told that this is just a woman thing, but is it? do men (i mean men not boys) have that feeling or is it really a case of so long farewell, on to the next one(i appreciate all men aren't the same) it would be intresting to hear from a few men. Especially single ones because i'm newly single now so...... only joking! x