My girl cant get over me having had a child with an Ex. Will this ever change??

[Hudskov]

My grilfriend loves me very much, this i know for sure. She has great trouble dealing with the fact that i have had a child with another woman previously. We are 33 and 32 years old. I have recently been told that i have MS and that i can receive treatment for it, though this will mean injections for 5 years and i will be unable to have kids during this time. My girlfriend is devastated that this will mean no kids for us. I have one son of 5, she has a son of 2 years and two girls aged 6 and 10. I have been trying to tell her that there is no definites in life and that we could well have kids at a later date but she is convinced this is the end of that story. Due to me having a kid with my ex she says she has trouble dealing with my son, she says when she see's him it reminds her of my ex and feels resentment towards him. She does love my son but hates it when i defend him as she says he is treated as a precious "golden child". I feel i cant win because i am providing a new house for us and our kids, i have taken on a new job which is allowing us to do all the things we want. Yet i cant change my past and keep getting punished for it. I know she hates the way she reacts to me and knows its a jealousy thing and feels rejected because i chose somebody else to have a child with. The truth is i has an unplanned child with somebody after a very short period of time so i didnt in fact choose anything, i just did the right thing and wanted to be part of the childs life. I did move in with the woman in question while she was pregnant to help look after her but i think that has come back to bite me on the arse! Thats what you get for being nice i guess.

SO really what my question is, is what can i do to help my girlfriend accept the situation or at least help her deal with the situation better. I just want her to be happy with me.

[DavideMexia]

Thats callled stubborn..She has 3 kids and she cant cope the fact you have one kid. Tell her to move on.

[supersuezy24]

Ummmm pretty much summed up my opinion in her first post.
If you ain't bothered by her having someone else's kids why should she be?
Think she needs to get real there

[Purple_Popple]

Did you meet this g/f on this dating site then a few questions ago ? lol - or were you trying to find someone else behind her back ? You are as bad as each other then.

[Purple_Popple]

http://www.theanswerb...k/Question706990.html

[ummmm]

Purple - That was 2 years ago..!!

As his GF has a child of two to someone else I wouldn't say they had been together long.

[PipinHull]

If women about to undergo chemo have their eggs frozen, whiy can't you do same with sperm? Then IVF is an option at any time during your treatment.

[Purple_Popple]

Oh yeah umm, well spotted, ho well.

[Purple_Popple]

Whatever, he doesn't post much...