Birdie - yes it was truely awful, she had a heart condition, I was warned that it would be sudden and would happen when she seemed ok. She was so intelligent and unusual - with me for eight years. They say this kind of loss is not far short of the feeling of losing a child - I can understand this (as a childless single male) - it was bloody awful.
a. Age 14 - hitting the wall instead of the face of the other kid (little barsteward) and breaking my hand
b. Death of my mam in 2000 - still haven't got over it yet