partners daughter

[Barney41]

My partner and i have been together for a while now, we are both in our early 40s and live separate from one another, i often stay at her place and she often stays at mine, the problem is, she has a 17 year old daughter and without being negative, she is an absolute nightmare! Spoilt beyond belief, so immature at times it takes me back to when my daughter was 5 by the manner in which she was.(only when in need of something though) Only ever really takes part in a conversation with her mum when she is after buying something on line. I call it the little “princess attitude”
I have recently proposed to my partner, She said yes, on telling her daughter ......”no you are not” and stormed off soon after with tears and a mood.
I do understand the fact my partner has lived alone for a while and for the daughter to see me as a threat for taking her mums undivided attention from her but this is getting the better of me. It has even got to the point where i don’t even get a “hi or bye now” we have given it a good 18 months before the wedding day and obviously moving in with one another, but i am stressed to the end now with how her daughter is. My partner tries but then the tears appear and the daughter says she doesn’t care and loves me more, ...... this is just trying to get her to empty the dish washer ! help with some advice please

[bednobs]

as a very tongue in cheek answer, you should get your partner pregnant and see how the dauhter likes them apples

[Barney41]

good morning all, i have read all that has been written and the feedback is just amazing, i have a little hope now with the fact there may well be a solution, it actually did have the better of me prior to writing this, i will leave the question open and update as and when to try give a pattern but i already think you all get the idea. i just wish the daughter could let go of her own self absorbed attitude and see how happy her mum is (not being big headed) with me in her life.

just to give you idea ...... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=90HhZ-pyC2Y

not that mum spoils her in this way but the reaction is perfect !

thanks all you have been great on this

[boxtops]

LOL jonty, brilliant clip! good luck with it all - keep coming back here if you need to!

[Barney41]

thanks boxtops ....... i never realised this site was so good, for a different perspective its worth its wait in gold, i will be back for sure ! i also hope others in same situation take on board all that has been written on this topic, im pretty sure im not alone with this particular issue !