To look or not

[jen1302]

Anybody else experienced and how did they deal with it.

I looked through my b/f's emails and found he had had sex with another woman last week.now do i let it go cause what i done was wrong, as i should never have found out, or do i admit i looked through his emails and confront him.

know am a bad person for looking through the mails now am kicking myself that i know the info and can do nothing about it!

[tigga]

Hi jen, looking through the answers, i agree with most - definitely leave him, you are too good for him !.

I wouldnt even bother with confrontation, dont tell him you read his emails (its ok since his crime was far worse) just leave him and give absolutely no reason, that way he will be the one with his head wrecked thinking : Is there someone else ?, Has she read my emails ?, Has she seen me / been told / can i trust any of my friends that knew ?. Am i no good in bed ?. I think you get the jist !!!

Go and find yourself the nice man you deserve !

[jacey]

Jen1302 I'm amazed that you, have not had more replies, along the lines of what terrij. wrote. There are hundreds and hundreds of people, out there indulging in 'cyber sex' .  The quote you typed from the offending E-mail, would fit in with this quite accurately too, as many couples continue their fantasy chat to this climax. I have run rooms in the past and been on various IM's and ASSURE you it goes on all the time. Please consider this before taking action that might be too drastic. I have also known of many people who have caught their partners out, by finding out where they chat, and going in under an alias. Wish you luck :-)

[jacey]

P.S.  Having re read your e-mail quote. IF he had actually been there. Would he need to ask if she had?? u know (family site 'n all ) .

[Scarlett]

Is this cyber sex, though?

[country_boy]

Why not set up a dummy email address and mail him pretending to be her saying this is your new email because your old one was being spammed or whatever.  You can get a load of info by being general and asking questions about how he feels about her/you.  When you get the replies that will incriminate him, you have even more ammo and it'll really spin him out when you let him know it's you.  Even better forward it on to yourself and make it look like she has betrayed him!  I expect you've already confronted him or left by now anyway. 

[georgit79]

Don't be ridiculous, of course it's not cyber sex! Wake up! He's cheating on her and needs a good kick into next week....and then his balls stamping on for good measure.

[tigga]

......and even if it was cyber sex, the same applies (its still cheating).

[phae]

If you confront him, you will be in the wrong for reading his mail.  I did the same thing, reading my ex's messages.... this is what i did....

I pretended that i had received a call from his other woman, that she had told me everything. i then insisted that he finish it with her right then in front of me or pack his bags and leave immediately. (thus giving him no chance to conspire with the other woman).

he believed me, finished with her... and i dumped him 2 days later!!! i then called the 'other girl' told her what i had done and she wldnt have anything to do with him either. me and the girl r good friends now. he's so upset, he's left town!!!!