my wife has changed since having baby 3 yrs ago..

[goldenbolls]

we have hit a wall now, we cant even look at each other sometimes, she is moody and grumpy and i think she has had or is now depressed or maybe im thinking she just doesnt want to be with me i just dont know, i have been sleeping in the single bed now for around 7 mths ( not good ) my sister took the child last week to hers to stay leaving me and my wife alone, i asked did she want to go to a bar or resturaunt or something and she didnt want to go , instead she just sat watched tv and done some knitting, shes 33 i am 43, now ive taken to watching porn and cant stop it. i dont play around but do go onto dating sites, i think its just for the attention as when it comes down to meeting a woman i dont go through with it, i love my wife and my baby dearly i just want things to be back to the way they were 5 years ago, she used to be funny and allways singing etc, i was allways outgoing also but now my confidence and self esteem is low. i dont want to break up , if i lost my child i would probably want to end it all as i went through a very bad divorce 11 yrs ago and lost my child then too , that time really broke my heart and i cannot take it again. its a pity that so many relationships turn out this way especially when there is children involved. my wife is especially moody once a mth for around 5 days during her period, she has a vile temper also .

[puddle-duck]

Firstly you need to break away from those dating sites. Seriously, there is no justification in what you are doing there. You risk doing serious damage to your marriage.
It does sound as if your wife is suffering from depression try & talk to her about taking the anti-depressants, they really are important. They may take a few months to kick in, but she will start to see that light at the end of the tunnel again.
Communication is important here, you need to listen to what she is saying. Somewhere in her words are the answers as to why she's feeling the way she is. Don't try & fix her or judge her just listen to what she says & take things from there.
Take time out for yourselves as a couple, get someone to watch the little one & take her away for the weekend. Rent a little cottage by the sea. some places in the uk have lovely coastal walks. The sea air & the change of scenery will do wonders for her. I always believe if the love is still there, then it's worth fighting for.
Good luck.

[goldenbolls]

lovely reply puddleduck. thankyou