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[leanne_1987]

my partner is in the army based abroad, last night he text to say he was off to bed and said goodnight got a drunken text at 2 o'clock ( would be 4 in morning were he is based) this morning saying he loves me asked were he was and said he was in the casino; think he forgot that he had told me he was going to sleep! I didnt say anything to him about lying as didnt want to cause an arguement. Tonight the same thing as happened, he'd gone out to watch the boxing and the England match and at half 7 he said he was back in his room but for some reason i think he is lying to me again, do you think i should say something, i have no problems with him going out and enoying himself its the fact that he feels the need to lie about it what is getting me mad, this one lie has made me completley question our relationship and i am so angry! 3 days ago he was asking me to try for a baby with him even though we havent been together that long, i am so confused...any opinions or advice will be listened to

[boxtops]

I'd certainly want to be in a longer-term relationship - as I recall, leanne had only met him a couple of weeks before he was posted overseas. Short intense relationships form if people are being moved about at all time - look up "Third Culture Kids", it's an interesting concept and I've seen it in action.

[leanne_1987]

OMG really, there will be no babies!
ummm 5 weeks isn't long but we really do know alot about each other, i'm not suspicious at all i trust him, all i was asking is why would he lie about something so small and pointless, which it is, if he lies about something so silly what else can he be lying about!
Boxtops; thank you for your helpfull advice

[boxtops]

Leanne - you're making a very big deal out of something and nothing. As I said before, if he's been out with the lads, he won't remember what he said to you earlier - and young men do anyway have a habit of changing their minds if their mates are going out. I would just chill with it, as suggested before - bide your time, not make such a big thing of it. It really doesn't matter where he is, he has to go back to barracks each night....

[leanne_1987]

ohh i know that now lol i was in a very bad mood tired and with pmt

[joannie10]

really if this is upsetting you you should be able to say to him 'I thought you had gone to your bed' very likely he has just changed his mind, found some others off to the casino and decided to join them. If things are right for you both you should be able to speak to each other about anything.

[pastafreak]

Good grief...only a month ago-in a post about writing letters to him-you said -

" i have no idea what so ever to write in a letter, i don't know were to start, what to write about etc baring in mind we have only known each other for 3 weeks we don't know that much about each other..."

How do you suddenly know him well? Yes-take it very slowly with him,as you really know very little at this stage. And-because of that,don't get suspicious of what he is doing,or what his explanations are. It will not do the future of this relationship any good. You can't even call it a relationship until you've spent far more time in each other's company.